AgonyUncle
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Eh?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You are challenging the MAN Iqqi...you have been forewarned.iqqi said:I think someone is too gung ho.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
iqqi said:I think someone is too gung ho.
I'm going to take a wild guess that it was for the reasons Rollo stated in every thread that he locked. If you had additional questions about his reasoning, why didn't you just PM him instead of making a thread about it?AgonyUncle said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If you read the thread you would know why they are locked.AgonyUncle said:Perhaps.
Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much.![]()
You could always defect, I don't even think that a travel visa is required.AgonyUncle said:Perhaps.
Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much.![]()
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The funny part is, I was being sarcastic... but I knew that it would happen...lol!Bible_Belt said:
Nice bit o drama there queenie. Maybe you should demand a refund. As a forum admin myself I hate it when people whip this idiotic argument out.AgonyUncle said:Perhaps.
Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much.![]()
Eddie417 said:Nice bit o drama there queenie. Maybe you should demand a refund. As a forum admin myself I hate it when people whip this idiotic argument out.
Censorship is something the state does. Although available to the public this is a privately run forum and not really much different than being in someone's living room. If they don't like what you're saying they can tell you to shut up or throw you out, no explanations needed.
Instead of whining about censorship, maybe you should be thanking them for making this available at no charge. Failing that you can a) leave or b) get off your lazy ass and setup your own forum so that you can listen to functional retards equate enforcing the house rules with terrorism.
Do you let your dog crap in the house? No? I guess that makes you a fascist terrorist too.:box:
Yeah... I'm pretty sure this is Allen's living room, in that context, not Rollo's.Eddie417 said:Although available to the public this is a privately run forum and not really much different than being in someone's living room. If they don't like what you're saying they can tell you to shut up or throw you out, no explanations needed.
Respectfully, iqqi.Bible_Belt said:I *really* hate it when about any thread is locked. I think mods do it too much.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.