AgonyUncle
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Eh?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You are challenging the MAN Iqqi...you have been forewarned.iqqi said:I think someone is too gung ho.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
iqqi said:I think someone is too gung ho.
I'm going to take a wild guess that it was for the reasons Rollo stated in every thread that he locked. If you had additional questions about his reasoning, why didn't you just PM him instead of making a thread about it?AgonyUncle said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If you read the thread you would know why they are locked.AgonyUncle said:Perhaps.
Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much.![]()
You could always defect, I don't even think that a travel visa is required.AgonyUncle said:Perhaps.
Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much.![]()
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The funny part is, I was being sarcastic... but I knew that it would happen...lol!Bible_Belt said:
Nice bit o drama there queenie. Maybe you should demand a refund. As a forum admin myself I hate it when people whip this idiotic argument out.AgonyUncle said:Perhaps.
Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much.![]()
Eddie417 said:Nice bit o drama there queenie. Maybe you should demand a refund. As a forum admin myself I hate it when people whip this idiotic argument out.
Censorship is something the state does. Although available to the public this is a privately run forum and not really much different than being in someone's living room. If they don't like what you're saying they can tell you to shut up or throw you out, no explanations needed.
Instead of whining about censorship, maybe you should be thanking them for making this available at no charge. Failing that you can a) leave or b) get off your lazy ass and setup your own forum so that you can listen to functional retards equate enforcing the house rules with terrorism.
Do you let your dog crap in the house? No? I guess that makes you a fascist terrorist too.:box:
Yeah... I'm pretty sure this is Allen's living room, in that context, not Rollo's.Eddie417 said:Although available to the public this is a privately run forum and not really much different than being in someone's living room. If they don't like what you're saying they can tell you to shut up or throw you out, no explanations needed.
Respectfully, iqqi.Bible_Belt said:I *really* hate it when about any thread is locked. I think mods do it too much.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.