AgonyUncle
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Eh?
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You are challenging the MAN Iqqi...you have been forewarned.iqqi said:I think someone is too gung ho.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
iqqi said:I think someone is too gung ho.
I'm going to take a wild guess that it was for the reasons Rollo stated in every thread that he locked. If you had additional questions about his reasoning, why didn't you just PM him instead of making a thread about it?AgonyUncle said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
If you read the thread you would know why they are locked.AgonyUncle said:Perhaps.
Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much.![]()
You could always defect, I don't even think that a travel visa is required.AgonyUncle said:Perhaps.
Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much.![]()
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The funny part is, I was being sarcastic... but I knew that it would happen...lol!Bible_Belt said:
Nice bit o drama there queenie. Maybe you should demand a refund. As a forum admin myself I hate it when people whip this idiotic argument out.AgonyUncle said:Perhaps.
Locking a thread is akin to censorship. And thats for facist terrorists thank you very much.![]()
Eddie417 said:Nice bit o drama there queenie. Maybe you should demand a refund. As a forum admin myself I hate it when people whip this idiotic argument out.
Censorship is something the state does. Although available to the public this is a privately run forum and not really much different than being in someone's living room. If they don't like what you're saying they can tell you to shut up or throw you out, no explanations needed.
Instead of whining about censorship, maybe you should be thanking them for making this available at no charge. Failing that you can a) leave or b) get off your lazy ass and setup your own forum so that you can listen to functional retards equate enforcing the house rules with terrorism.
Do you let your dog crap in the house? No? I guess that makes you a fascist terrorist too.:box:
Yeah... I'm pretty sure this is Allen's living room, in that context, not Rollo's.Eddie417 said:Although available to the public this is a privately run forum and not really much different than being in someone's living room. If they don't like what you're saying they can tell you to shut up or throw you out, no explanations needed.
Respectfully, iqqi.Bible_Belt said:I *really* hate it when about any thread is locked. I think mods do it too much.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.