"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sexy_Malibu

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I think most women's forums would be too afraid to come and troll the DJ boards, because it would only be instigating the DJs to go troll THEIR boards.

I enjoy this site, but I sure as hell wouldn't want you guys posting DJ **** on one of my other sites I go to. (It just wouldn't belong). Same as why I don't post 'feminist' (ha) stuff on here. Or at least I don't post extreme amounts of it. ;)

I try to remember that as a woman, I'm always going to be a 'guest' of sosuave and try to respect that. That doesn't mean I'm not going to disagree with certain things, but obviously I'm not going to come on here preaching either.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Wyldfire

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Originally posted by Vincent
You are lacking of a sense of humor mam.
Not lacking a sense of humor at all...I just don't find Gio to be at all humorous.
 

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Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
I think most women's forums would be too afraid to come and troll the DJ boards, because it would only be instigating the DJs to go troll THEIR boards.

I wasn't talking about "women's" forums. I was talking about radical feminist forums. Big, big difference.
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Now that really hurts my feelings a whole lot.
Sorry...I've always found inanity to be rather dull.
 

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Wyld, on a serious note...

Why didn't you just PM Giovanni and ask HIM about the thread instead of starting yet ANOTHER thread in Suggestions and Feedback?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Eternal
Wyld, on a serious note...

Why didn't you just PM Giovanni and ask HIM about the thread instead of starting yet ANOTHER thread in Suggestions and Feedback?
Because then no one else would get to benefit from her wisdom. :rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by Eternal
Wyld, on a serious note...

Why didn't you just PM Giovanni and ask HIM about the thread instead of starting yet ANOTHER thread in Suggestions and Feedback?
Because I didn't want to...
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
Because I didn't want to...
Sorry Sexy_Malibu, we are gonna have to strip your of your "Attention-Wh*re" title...We have a new winner.
 

Wyldfire

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Originally posted by Eternal
Sorry Sexy_Malibu, we are gonna have to strip your of your "Attention-Wh*re" title...We have a new winner.
Typical...can't come up with a logical response so call her an "Attention Wh*re".

:rolleyes:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
Typical...can't come up with a logical response so call her an "Attention Wh*re".

:rolleyes:
Malibu already called HERSELF an AW, so you don't have a claim that I didn't come up with something "logical," your all high and mightyness. :rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
Okay, Eternal...
That was Vincent. Geez, always thinking of me, huh?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Sexy_Malibu

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
Typical...can't come up with a logical response so call her an "Attention Wh*re".

:rolleyes:
Originally posted by Eternal
Malibu already called HERSELF an AW, so you don't have a claim that I didn't come up with something "logical," your all high and mightyness. :rolleyes:
I think what she meant was that instead of 'logically' responding to her 'legitimate and very serious' complaints, you're just dismissing her by calling her (Wyldfire) an attention wh*re.

However, I do think that calling Wyldfire an attention wh*re was a pretty logical conclusion. It's the same conclusion I came to (guess it takes one to know one ;)).
 

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Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
I think what she meant was that instead of 'logically' responding to her 'legitimate and very serious' complaints, you're just dismissing her by calling her (Wyldfire) an attention wh*re.

However, I do think that calling Wyldfire an attention wh*re was a pretty logical conclusion. It's the same conclusion I came to (guess it takes one to know one ;)).
Thank you for clearing that up Sexy. Just think, that was settled without bashing me and Gio for saying something. Take notes Wyld.
 

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Originally posted by Vincent
And you said Gio wasn't funny...
Gio isn't funny...and I wasn't trying to be.
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
Gio isn't funny...and I wasn't trying to be.
Oh really? I guess you were being "Clever".

Or some either word like that I can't put my finger on... Clever seems so close, I think it even has the same amount of letters.

Oh well, I give up.
 

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Originally posted by Eternal
Thank you for clearing that up Sexy. Just think, that was settled without bashing me and Gio for saying something. Take notes Wyld.
Oh ****. Did I forget to bash you guys! Sorry, my bad...

Um... oh yeah! And Eternal and Gio suck!!!

:p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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