"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Why "Hi I'm Joe Shmo. Whats your name" doesnt work
- Thread starter dirtyvibe
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
it should also work with social proof arround you if youre uglyOriginally posted by DJinT
Thank you captain obvious.
http://www.benchracers.com/forum/attachment.php?attachmentid=57&d=1083625978
Actually if you actually introduced yourself as 'Joe Shmo' you would at least get some interest, more if it actually was your real name. Bizarrely, my brother and I have the same first name and it drives girls crazy how this could be (we don't tell them, naturally). So, er, change your name to Joe Shmo and get laid!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It really depends on your projected confidence level. If it's high enough almost anything can work.
Mini-fr to demonstrate.
I was in a bar playing darts, spotted a girl that interested me in a group of guys/girls.
I walked up, said hello and introduced myself to all of them and got their names.
Turned to the girl I was interested in, said 'let's go play pool' and walked away.
She followed, we played some pool. I got her number and we ended up going out for a while.
My state of mind at the time was that the answer was a given. I didn't ask her to play pool, or ask for her number I made a statement and fully believed in the result.
It was actually an eye-opener for me in a way, since it was the first time I've tried just staying in a strong state of mind rather than using more scripted openers and acting disinterested.
damnbugs
Don Juan
Girls find confidence very attractive.
spitkicker
Don Juan
faster
Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
You can pretty much say whatever you want to a girl and it will work if you know what you're doing. I told a girl today that we should go do some karaoke and sing some backstreet boys.. She was lovin me.Originally posted by dirtyvibe
It will only work on a good looking girl if you're physically attractive.