"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Why "Hi I'm Joe Shmo. Whats your name" doesnt work
- Thread starter dirtyvibe
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
it should also work with social proof arround you if youre uglyOriginally posted by DJinT
Thank you captain obvious.
http://www.benchracers.com/forum/attachment.php?attachmentid=57&d=1083625978
Actually if you actually introduced yourself as 'Joe Shmo' you would at least get some interest, more if it actually was your real name. Bizarrely, my brother and I have the same first name and it drives girls crazy how this could be (we don't tell them, naturally). So, er, change your name to Joe Shmo and get laid!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It really depends on your projected confidence level. If it's high enough almost anything can work.
Mini-fr to demonstrate.
I was in a bar playing darts, spotted a girl that interested me in a group of guys/girls.
I walked up, said hello and introduced myself to all of them and got their names.
Turned to the girl I was interested in, said 'let's go play pool' and walked away.
She followed, we played some pool. I got her number and we ended up going out for a while.
My state of mind at the time was that the answer was a given. I didn't ask her to play pool, or ask for her number I made a statement and fully believed in the result.
It was actually an eye-opener for me in a way, since it was the first time I've tried just staying in a strong state of mind rather than using more scripted openers and acting disinterested.
damnbugs
Don Juan
Girls find confidence very attractive.
spitkicker
Don Juan
faster
Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
You can pretty much say whatever you want to a girl and it will work if you know what you're doing. I told a girl today that we should go do some karaoke and sing some backstreet boys.. She was lovin me.Originally posted by dirtyvibe
It will only work on a good looking girl if you're physically attractive.