"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why "Hi I'm Joe Shmo. Whats your name" doesnt work
- Thread starter dirtyvibe
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
it should also work with social proof arround you if youre uglyOriginally posted by DJinT
Thank you captain obvious.
http://www.benchracers.com/forum/attachment.php?attachmentid=57&d=1083625978
Actually if you actually introduced yourself as 'Joe Shmo' you would at least get some interest, more if it actually was your real name. Bizarrely, my brother and I have the same first name and it drives girls crazy how this could be (we don't tell them, naturally). So, er, change your name to Joe Shmo and get laid!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It really depends on your projected confidence level. If it's high enough almost anything can work.
Mini-fr to demonstrate.
I was in a bar playing darts, spotted a girl that interested me in a group of guys/girls.
I walked up, said hello and introduced myself to all of them and got their names.
Turned to the girl I was interested in, said 'let's go play pool' and walked away.
She followed, we played some pool. I got her number and we ended up going out for a while.
My state of mind at the time was that the answer was a given. I didn't ask her to play pool, or ask for her number I made a statement and fully believed in the result.
It was actually an eye-opener for me in a way, since it was the first time I've tried just staying in a strong state of mind rather than using more scripted openers and acting disinterested.
damnbugs
Don Juan
Girls find confidence very attractive.
spitkicker
Don Juan
faster
Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
You can pretty much say whatever you want to a girl and it will work if you know what you're doing. I told a girl today that we should go do some karaoke and sing some backstreet boys.. She was lovin me.Originally posted by dirtyvibe
It will only work on a good looking girl if you're physically attractive.