"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why "Hi I'm Joe Shmo. Whats your name" doesnt work
- Thread starter dirtyvibe
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
it should also work with social proof arround you if youre uglyOriginally posted by DJinT
Thank you captain obvious.
http://www.benchracers.com/forum/attachment.php?attachmentid=57&d=1083625978
Actually if you actually introduced yourself as 'Joe Shmo' you would at least get some interest, more if it actually was your real name. Bizarrely, my brother and I have the same first name and it drives girls crazy how this could be (we don't tell them, naturally). So, er, change your name to Joe Shmo and get laid!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It really depends on your projected confidence level. If it's high enough almost anything can work.
Mini-fr to demonstrate.
I was in a bar playing darts, spotted a girl that interested me in a group of guys/girls.
I walked up, said hello and introduced myself to all of them and got their names.
Turned to the girl I was interested in, said 'let's go play pool' and walked away.
She followed, we played some pool. I got her number and we ended up going out for a while.
My state of mind at the time was that the answer was a given. I didn't ask her to play pool, or ask for her number I made a statement and fully believed in the result.
It was actually an eye-opener for me in a way, since it was the first time I've tried just staying in a strong state of mind rather than using more scripted openers and acting disinterested.
damnbugs
Don Juan
Girls find confidence very attractive.
spitkicker
Don Juan
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Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
You can pretty much say whatever you want to a girl and it will work if you know what you're doing. I told a girl today that we should go do some karaoke and sing some backstreet boys.. She was lovin me.Originally posted by dirtyvibe
It will only work on a good looking girl if you're physically attractive.