bigjohnson
Master Don Juan
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Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Exactly !bigjohnson said:Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
Let me tell you a story about this topic.bigjohnson said:Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
LMS this is the same woman who was still living in a mansion that her ex fiance bought for them to live in as a married couple. They broke up as a couple two years before I met her, but they continued to live together (seperate rooms, so she said)Last Man Standing said:Jophil, your girl had reason to be upset - If I saw my girl at a club I would leave her right there!
Haha, OK, you did good then! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness!jophil28 said:LMS this is the same woman who was still living in a mansion that her ex fiance bought for them to live in as a married couple. They broke up as a couple two years before I met her, but they continued to live together (seperate rooms, so she said)
She was also casually dating two other guys behind my back who were telling her that they both "loved her".. I was her sex supply BUT she demanded that I not have expectations ..
Her fav saying was,'' I want an exclusive relationship with you Jophil but I don't want to feel like we are a couple." WTF ?
I got played.
Last Man Standing ! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness! :rolleyes:[/QUOTE said:Thanks LMS, I like that - Im gonna stick it up on my new Maytag side by side fridge and read it daily.. Sometimes you show a nice turn of phrase !
BTW troops -it is hot down here -beach weather and bikinis on parade. Eating fresh fish and mangoes and dancing Salsa at night.. tough gig !
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.