bigjohnson
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Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"WHY don't I want him???"
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
jophil28
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Exactly !bigjohnson said:
Dramatics and faked up hysterics are nothing more that attention seeking tactics. Pathetic isn't it ?
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Let me tell you a story about this topic.bigjohnson said:
A few years ago I was in a short term relationship with a woman who turned out to be nuts. When I met her, I read her as intelligent and bright and interesting -she was a teacher.
Anyways, our relationship became a rollercoaster and one night ,three months in, she silently followed me to our club and spotted me dancing with another woman- just dancing !
My G/f stormed out with her nose in the air and I was stupid enough to go after her. We talked for an hour, but she decided to end it there in the carpark, and still claimed that she was NOT angry ! Two weeks later she text me "to talk ". WE spent 5 hours in the coffee shop making up, and then, as we were walking to our cars she said " What would you do if you saw me driving along with another man ? " I was bewildered. I said somethink like ." I would assume that you were seeing him behind my back and I would not call you again. " She kind of smirked as if she had scored some points.. WTF !
NOw, two years later ( via this forum) I understand how hard women work to set themselves up as the PRIZE and how hard they manipulate and play mind games to gain the upper hand and to draw attention to themselves.
Of course all their adolescent efforts are counterproductive and ultimately self-defeating BUT is is what they do, even at my age.
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She is pressured to want him because others have approved of him - she is looking for something else that he doesn't have!!
Jophil, your girl had reason to be upset - If I saw my girl at a club I would leave her right there!
Jophil, your girl had reason to be upset - If I saw my girl at a club I would leave her right there!
Man, if dancing is enough ground for that, then I'm in deep sh!t. I go to dance clubs regularly and dance with at least a dozen different women a night. Some of them are attached and their boys usually dance with other women right next to me, or sit down and watch us swing it. I think that woman was overreacting.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
LMS this is the same woman who was still living in a mansion that her ex fiance bought for them to live in as a married couple. They broke up as a couple two years before I met her, but they continued to live together (seperate rooms, so she said)Last Man Standing said:
She was also casually dating two other guys behind my back who were telling her that they both "loved her".. I was her sex supply BUT she demanded that I not have expectations ..
Her fav saying was,'' I want an exclusive relationship with you Jophil but I don't want to feel like we are a couple." WTF ?
I got played.
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Haha, OK, you did good then! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness!jophil28 said:
jophil28
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Last Man Standing ! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness! :rolleyes:[/QUOTE said:
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Jophil, let me expound on that... by the way...it's going on below zero here and snow covered! Australia is a kind place!
Hors, not women, as you know, are branch monkeys, meaning that they'll seek another pimp before they let go of their current pimp! They swing - because they hate to be alone, but yet when men swing, for our own interest, then they call us "Dogs"! In other words, they want exclusivity when it suits them!! Know who you are with!!!
Hors, not women, as you know, are branch monkeys, meaning that they'll seek another pimp before they let go of their current pimp! They swing - because they hate to be alone, but yet when men swing, for our own interest, then they call us "Dogs"! In other words, they want exclusivity when it suits them!! Know who you are with!!!
iqqi
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Haha at Des.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.