bigjohnson
Master Don Juan
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Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Exactly !bigjohnson said:Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
Let me tell you a story about this topic.bigjohnson said:Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
LMS this is the same woman who was still living in a mansion that her ex fiance bought for them to live in as a married couple. They broke up as a couple two years before I met her, but they continued to live together (seperate rooms, so she said)Last Man Standing said:Jophil, your girl had reason to be upset - If I saw my girl at a club I would leave her right there!
Haha, OK, you did good then! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness!jophil28 said:LMS this is the same woman who was still living in a mansion that her ex fiance bought for them to live in as a married couple. They broke up as a couple two years before I met her, but they continued to live together (seperate rooms, so she said)
She was also casually dating two other guys behind my back who were telling her that they both "loved her".. I was her sex supply BUT she demanded that I not have expectations ..
Her fav saying was,'' I want an exclusive relationship with you Jophil but I don't want to feel like we are a couple." WTF ?
I got played.
Last Man Standing ! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness! :rolleyes:[/QUOTE said:Thanks LMS, I like that - Im gonna stick it up on my new Maytag side by side fridge and read it daily.. Sometimes you show a nice turn of phrase !
BTW troops -it is hot down here -beach weather and bikinis on parade. Eating fresh fish and mangoes and dancing Salsa at night.. tough gig !
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.