bigjohnson
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Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Exactly !bigjohnson said:Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
Let me tell you a story about this topic.bigjohnson said:Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
LMS this is the same woman who was still living in a mansion that her ex fiance bought for them to live in as a married couple. They broke up as a couple two years before I met her, but they continued to live together (seperate rooms, so she said)Last Man Standing said:Jophil, your girl had reason to be upset - If I saw my girl at a club I would leave her right there!
Haha, OK, you did good then! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness!jophil28 said:LMS this is the same woman who was still living in a mansion that her ex fiance bought for them to live in as a married couple. They broke up as a couple two years before I met her, but they continued to live together (seperate rooms, so she said)
She was also casually dating two other guys behind my back who were telling her that they both "loved her".. I was her sex supply BUT she demanded that I not have expectations ..
Her fav saying was,'' I want an exclusive relationship with you Jophil but I don't want to feel like we are a couple." WTF ?
I got played.
Last Man Standing ! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness! :rolleyes:[/QUOTE said:Thanks LMS, I like that - Im gonna stick it up on my new Maytag side by side fridge and read it daily.. Sometimes you show a nice turn of phrase !
BTW troops -it is hot down here -beach weather and bikinis on parade. Eating fresh fish and mangoes and dancing Salsa at night.. tough gig !
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.