bigjohnson
Master Don Juan
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Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Exactly !bigjohnson said:Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
Let me tell you a story about this topic.bigjohnson said:Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
LMS this is the same woman who was still living in a mansion that her ex fiance bought for them to live in as a married couple. They broke up as a couple two years before I met her, but they continued to live together (seperate rooms, so she said)Last Man Standing said:Jophil, your girl had reason to be upset - If I saw my girl at a club I would leave her right there!
Haha, OK, you did good then! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness!jophil28 said:LMS this is the same woman who was still living in a mansion that her ex fiance bought for them to live in as a married couple. They broke up as a couple two years before I met her, but they continued to live together (seperate rooms, so she said)
She was also casually dating two other guys behind my back who were telling her that they both "loved her".. I was her sex supply BUT she demanded that I not have expectations ..
Her fav saying was,'' I want an exclusive relationship with you Jophil but I don't want to feel like we are a couple." WTF ?
I got played.
Last Man Standing ! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness! :rolleyes:[/QUOTE said:Thanks LMS, I like that - Im gonna stick it up on my new Maytag side by side fridge and read it daily.. Sometimes you show a nice turn of phrase !
BTW troops -it is hot down here -beach weather and bikinis on parade. Eating fresh fish and mangoes and dancing Salsa at night.. tough gig !
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.