bigjohnson
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Women crave attention, drama is just one way they learn to attract what they crave.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"WHY don't I want him???"
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
jophil28
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Exactly !bigjohnson said:
Dramatics and faked up hysterics are nothing more that attention seeking tactics. Pathetic isn't it ?
jophil28
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Let me tell you a story about this topic.bigjohnson said:
A few years ago I was in a short term relationship with a woman who turned out to be nuts. When I met her, I read her as intelligent and bright and interesting -she was a teacher.
Anyways, our relationship became a rollercoaster and one night ,three months in, she silently followed me to our club and spotted me dancing with another woman- just dancing !
My G/f stormed out with her nose in the air and I was stupid enough to go after her. We talked for an hour, but she decided to end it there in the carpark, and still claimed that she was NOT angry ! Two weeks later she text me "to talk ". WE spent 5 hours in the coffee shop making up, and then, as we were walking to our cars she said " What would you do if you saw me driving along with another man ? " I was bewildered. I said somethink like ." I would assume that you were seeing him behind my back and I would not call you again. " She kind of smirked as if she had scored some points.. WTF !
NOw, two years later ( via this forum) I understand how hard women work to set themselves up as the PRIZE and how hard they manipulate and play mind games to gain the upper hand and to draw attention to themselves.
Of course all their adolescent efforts are counterproductive and ultimately self-defeating BUT is is what they do, even at my age.
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She is pressured to want him because others have approved of him - she is looking for something else that he doesn't have!!
Jophil, your girl had reason to be upset - If I saw my girl at a club I would leave her right there!
Jophil, your girl had reason to be upset - If I saw my girl at a club I would leave her right there!
Man, if dancing is enough ground for that, then I'm in deep sh!t. I go to dance clubs regularly and dance with at least a dozen different women a night. Some of them are attached and their boys usually dance with other women right next to me, or sit down and watch us swing it. I think that woman was overreacting.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
jophil28
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LMS this is the same woman who was still living in a mansion that her ex fiance bought for them to live in as a married couple. They broke up as a couple two years before I met her, but they continued to live together (seperate rooms, so she said)Last Man Standing said:
She was also casually dating two other guys behind my back who were telling her that they both "loved her".. I was her sex supply BUT she demanded that I not have expectations ..
Her fav saying was,'' I want an exclusive relationship with you Jophil but I don't want to feel like we are a couple." WTF ?
I got played.
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Haha, OK, you did good then! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness!jophil28 said:
jophil28
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Last Man Standing ! Hors want exclusivity without exclusiveness! :rolleyes:[/QUOTE said:
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Jophil, let me expound on that... by the way...it's going on below zero here and snow covered! Australia is a kind place!
Hors, not women, as you know, are branch monkeys, meaning that they'll seek another pimp before they let go of their current pimp! They swing - because they hate to be alone, but yet when men swing, for our own interest, then they call us "Dogs"! In other words, they want exclusivity when it suits them!! Know who you are with!!!
Hors, not women, as you know, are branch monkeys, meaning that they'll seek another pimp before they let go of their current pimp! They swing - because they hate to be alone, but yet when men swing, for our own interest, then they call us "Dogs"! In other words, they want exclusivity when it suits them!! Know who you are with!!!
iqqi
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Haha at Des.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.