- Aug 19, 2013
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- Eye of the storm
This!OP, sorry bro but I think you are missing a trick here. You are seeing an opportunity as a problem and you need to fix that fast.
If i understood you well, you married a religious virgin who had zero sexual experience. Effectively you married a clean slate, a blank untainted canvass. You are failing to realise therefore that you are the artist who needs to mould and shape her into the masterpiece you desire.
Your sexual appetites are aroused by traits common in sexually experienced women, i.e women who have been rammed by a couple of dudes. Instead of viewing your blank canvass as an opportunity to create a customised one-off from the ground up, you’re pining for canvasses already painted over by multiple artists.
With the patience of a primary school teacher, you can slowly coach and develop her into the woman of your dreams. Sometimes we dont get the outcomes we want because we are giving wrong or poorly timed instructions. Sometimes its not what we say, but how we say it.
Think about it. This is a good opportunity to create a true original
My wife was also a virgin when I met her, but unlike OP we had sex one month after first meeting (nobody on this forum would have that patience, lol). She had no clue about sex and hadn't even masturbated, ever! So I had to teach her everything and obviously the sex wasn't amazing or anything fancy at first. She enjoyed it, hard not to enjoy a good orgasm though. Over time I added something new to her, like various positions, different places in the house, mixing up foreplay etc. I remember oral was a bit tricky, she was very hesitant, but I told her to at least try it first and if it's really that bad then we'll never do it again. Well, I'm getting BJ's all the time now.
Today she's the perfect partner in bed for me, she does everything I want and genuinely enjoys it. All through coaching and positive reinforcement.
She too was shy about her body and such to begin with, I too could have said she has issues and called it a day. Instead I showed that I loved her body both through actions and words, guess what, she has no issues with her body when around me. Now she acts confident, sexy and attractive towards me, but this wasn't always so, it's a result of how I responded to her.
I told her many times over a couple of years to let me know if she has any ideas she wants to try out in bed. I also told her to stop asking about sex and instead just put her hands on my d!ck by surprise, because I find that incredibly hot. Both those things have taken a lot of time, I just kept reinforcing that I'd like that a lot (no pressure) and one day she just started doing it.
Point is, it can take a very long time with women who didn't burn their virginity ASAP.