mandalay_noodles
Don Juan
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
what is beIf you can filter out the horn-tooting BE has some good insights.
crazy you’ve been here for 20 yearsWhy WOULDN'T women be allowed on a forum dedicated to the topic of women? One of the seduction community's greatest "gurus," Zan Perrion, has said that he learned everything he knows from listening to women. Sure, that oftentimes leads to getting bad advice, but learn how to listen the right way, ignore any obviously misandrist stuff, and you'll find gold.
The real group that shouldn't be allowed here are the incels or blackpillers. Their views are antithetical to improving your seduction skills.
Two noteworthy female posters whose content is generally well received by male members include @BeExcellent and @penkitten.
@BeExcellent has been the primary female poster in the time I've been here. I'd consider her an asset to this forum as well, even when I have disagreed with her.The one and only regular female poster we have is a valuable asset to this forum.
Most that do come here don't last long.
On the rare occasion that a female poster causes drama, I will do my best to put heat on her azz to push her out.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.