mandalay_noodles
Don Juan
- Joined
- Feb 24, 2024
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
what is beIf you can filter out the horn-tooting BE has some good insights.
crazy you’ve been here for 20 yearsWhy WOULDN'T women be allowed on a forum dedicated to the topic of women? One of the seduction community's greatest "gurus," Zan Perrion, has said that he learned everything he knows from listening to women. Sure, that oftentimes leads to getting bad advice, but learn how to listen the right way, ignore any obviously misandrist stuff, and you'll find gold.
The real group that shouldn't be allowed here are the incels or blackpillers. Their views are antithetical to improving your seduction skills.
Two noteworthy female posters whose content is generally well received by male members include @BeExcellent and @penkitten.
@BeExcellent has been the primary female poster in the time I've been here. I'd consider her an asset to this forum as well, even when I have disagreed with her.The one and only regular female poster we have is a valuable asset to this forum.
Most that do come here don't last long.
On the rare occasion that a female poster causes drama, I will do my best to put heat on her azz to push her out.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.