"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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zekko

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@backbreaker - I remember him from years ago, he went MIA, wonder what happened to him
I always enjoyed his posts also, and wonder what happened to him. He would get into some crazy stuff.
 

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The Admin SoSuave.com has been here since April 2000.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Atom Smasher

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I move that we stage an intervention for our friend @zekko, who clearly posts too much for his own good.
zekko, please, please refrain from replying to this post.
 

MatureDJ

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Looks like you're up there as well. I would imagine a grand majority of those who sign up stick around for a few mouths than drop off. I've obviously dropped off plenty of times or you'd see a much higher numbers under my name, but seriously, 21 years ago man!
Going back to 2001, you seem to be the King here! I had an earlier handle before my 2006 join date, but I think it was 2002.
 

Borknagar

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I just went back to look at my history and really only posted a few tiems between 2001-2002. Came back for a post in 2007 then a regular for a couple of years starting in 2010 and then a couple years ago about my marriage shambles.
 

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Probably got married, probably should have had a funeral for him since that's what marriage is.
As far as i remember he was married with a pretty sucessfull web design business, my thoughts is he outgrew the forum like a lot of people do. Not sure though
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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As far as i remember he was married with a pretty sucessfull web design business, my thoughts is he outgrew the forum like a lot of people do. Not sure though
This forum offers amazing support for those coming from a place of heartbreak and confusion. I frequent SS over the years, absorb advice and apply it on the field. I find myself coming back as I am now after a breakup and hope to offer what I have learned to help others in similar situations I was in.
 

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I move that we stage an intervention for our friend @zekko, who clearly posts too much for his own good.
zekko, please, please refrain from replying to this post.
Does it count if I just leave a like? Oh wait.... drat.
Might as well tell the wind not to blow.
 

Borknagar

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If you look back from the pictures from 2000, it says discussion forum on the main page. Where it says "check out the hall of fame"...You'll see it...i think .net was created in 2002, it was just a different system back then where it was sosuave,com/forum. According to way back machine
I was able to find some of my posts dated from way back in 01 and 02. I brought a couple back up lol
 

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Does it count if I just leave a like? Oh wait.... drat.
Might as well tell the wind not to blow.
Now you’ve done it. That last post rolled the odometer over to zero, and you’re now at 1 post and zero likes. I tried to warn you. I’ll give you a courtesy like to help you get back on your feet.
 

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Now you’ve done it. That last post rolled the odometer over to zero, and you’re now at 1 post and zero likes
Woohoo, back to zero! Now I can really go on a posting tear.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's been around a while that's for sure some guys have taken what they've learned and moved on I just can't believe to survived RSD and other in cell forms
 

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I know you'll have my original account beat by about 2 months.
 

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i've got some history here. i remember Rollo before he became Rollo
 

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I'm not proud of it lol, but I think I may have the most posts.
You are actually 4th, but under 400 posts away from 3rd and I don't recognize the user so he doesn't post much anymore I guess...you should pass him in no time :rofl:

@mrgoodstuff is in the lead quite comfortably...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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