Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I always enjoyed his posts also, and wonder what happened to him. He would get into some crazy stuff.@backbreaker - I remember him from years ago, he went MIA, wonder what happened to him
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Going back to 2001, you seem to be the King here! I had an earlier handle before my 2006 join date, but I think it was 2002.Looks like you're up there as well. I would imagine a grand majority of those who sign up stick around for a few mouths than drop off. I've obviously dropped off plenty of times or you'd see a much higher numbers under my name, but seriously, 21 years ago man!
Probably got married, probably should have had a funeral for him since that's what marriage is.@backbreaker - I remember him from years ago, he went MIA, wonder what happened to him
As far as i remember he was married with a pretty sucessfull web design business, my thoughts is he outgrew the forum like a lot of people do. Not sure thoughProbably got married, probably should have had a funeral for him since that's what marriage is.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This forum offers amazing support for those coming from a place of heartbreak and confusion. I frequent SS over the years, absorb advice and apply it on the field. I find myself coming back as I am now after a breakup and hope to offer what I have learned to help others in similar situations I was in.As far as i remember he was married with a pretty sucessfull web design business, my thoughts is he outgrew the forum like a lot of people do. Not sure though
Does it count if I just leave a like? Oh wait.... drat.I move that we stage an intervention for our friend @zekko, who clearly posts too much for his own good.
zekko, please, please refrain from replying to this post.
I was able to find some of my posts dated from way back in 01 and 02. I brought a couple back up lolIf you look back from the pictures from 2000, it says discussion forum on the main page. Where it says "check out the hall of fame"...You'll see it...i think .net was created in 2002, it was just a different system back then where it was sosuave,com/forum. According to way back machine
Now you’ve done it. That last post rolled the odometer over to zero, and you’re now at 1 post and zero likes. I tried to warn you. I’ll give you a courtesy like to help you get back on your feet.Does it count if I just leave a like? Oh wait.... drat.
Might as well tell the wind not to blow.
Woohoo, back to zero! Now I can really go on a posting tear.Now you’ve done it. That last post rolled the odometer over to zero, and you’re now at 1 post and zero likes
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You are actually 4th, but under 400 posts away from 3rd and I don't recognize the user so he doesn't post much anymore I guess...you should pass him in no timeI'm not proud of it lol, but I think I may have the most posts.
Hell yeahThe longest currently active member is probably the admin since he actively gets revenues from the adverts since the late 90s.
Btw what a ride this world had since the early 00s.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.