"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Who is the longest currently active member?
- Thread starter Borknagar
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
zekko
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Thanks, I feel better already.
Crissco
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zekko
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I always enjoyed his posts also, and wonder what happened to him. He would get into some crazy stuff.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Atom Smasher
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MatureDJ
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Going back to 2001, you seem to be the King here! I had an earlier handle before my 2006 join date, but I think it was 2002.
Borknagar
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Probably got married, probably should have had a funeral for him since that's what marriage is.
Borknagar
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Crissco
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As far as i remember he was married with a pretty sucessfull web design business, my thoughts is he outgrew the forum like a lot of people do. Not sure though
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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This forum offers amazing support for those coming from a place of heartbreak and confusion. I frequent SS over the years, absorb advice and apply it on the field. I find myself coming back as I am now after a breakup and hope to offer what I have learned to help others in similar situations I was in.
zekko
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Does it count if I just leave a like? Oh wait.... drat.
Might as well tell the wind not to blow.
Borknagar
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I was able to find some of my posts dated from way back in 01 and 02. I brought a couple back up lol
Atom Smasher
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Now you’ve done it. That last post rolled the odometer over to zero, and you’re now at 1 post and zero likes. I tried to warn you. I’ll give you a courtesy like to help you get back on your feet.
zekko
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Woohoo, back to zero! Now I can really go on a posting tear.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
TheVirtualMind
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You are actually 4th, but under 400 posts away from 3rd and I don't recognize the user so he doesn't post much anymore I guess...you should pass him in no time
@mrgoodstuff is in the lead quite comfortably...
Hell yeah
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.