Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Which dance style do you own?

tesla8520

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I dance salsa, although lately I've been thinking about switching to other styles.

Salsa makes me feel a little too "feminine."
What dance styles do you know and have you practiced?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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The one where I do what I feel and dance like nobody is watching, not giving two fvcks what anyone else thinks.

Ironically, it's the one that will almost always attract the most women, because it displays something that is almost universally attractive to women that can't be faked.
 

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Ironically, it's the one that will almost always attract the most women, because it displays something that is almost universally attractive to women that can't be faked.
Speaking of that, this is one of my dance teacher.

A good man, as you can see, stays in his own skin. He's a really nice guy. He knows how to take a woman and lead her. Dancing helped create an aura of fun and humor in him.
I have always considered such a man to be ideal, but in my opinion, he laughs or it's just happy, too much.

It's really "too" happy in that sense. He has no expressions or moments of mystery... or intimidation.
I don't know how to explain it but I don't feel intimidated by him.
 

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The only dancing I like is slow dancing.

Slow grinding to R&B music or oldies, with her hands over my broad shoulders and my hands on her hips.

Bodies touching and lips kissing as we slow grind.

Grown folks shiit...y'all don't know nothin bout that. :lol:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I dance salsa, although lately I've been thinking about switching to other styles.

Salsa makes me feel a little too "feminine."
What dance styles do you know and have you practiced?
That's an easy fix, stop moving your hips so much lol that's her job

In all seriousness west coast swing is pretty awesome. She gets to do her crazy, sexy sh*t and I get to stand there and look amazing without sweating my balls off.
 

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That's an easy fix, stop moving your hips so much lol that's her job

In all seriousness west coast swing is pretty awesome. She gets to do her crazy, sexy sh*t and I get to stand there and look amazing without sweating my balls off.
I do remember seeing some instruction on dancing where the said the guy's job is basically to highlight the woman while she does her thing. Kinda makes sense.
 

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Line dancing with a bit of break dancing, and mixing some of my own moves if I really like the music.
 

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I think dancing helps men become comfortable with rejection (dancing in front of everyone), develop an idgaf attitude, gain mastery and control over their bodies, and become sensual.

But most importantly, it teaches you how to have fun with a woman's body.

There's no going back, guys.

It's as if when you learn to dance, you now know what to do physically to a woman to have fun with her physically, any woman!

So you no longer see two breasts and an ass, but rather all the elements that connect to her brain.

Great post, I wonder if there are other disciplines/activities a man can do in his life to take total control of having fun with a woman's body.

Besides sex, which is obvious, I was thinking about things like learning to give massages, and something like improvisation.

What do you think?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I do remember seeing some instruction on dancing where the said the guy's job is basically to highlight the woman while she does her thing. Kinda makes sense.
I think dancing helps men become comfortable with rejection (dancing in front of everyone), develop an idgaf attitude, gain mastery and control over their bodies, and become sensual.

But most importantly, it teaches you how to have fun with a woman's body.

There's no going back, guys.

It's as if when you learn to dance, you now know what to do physically to a woman to have fun with her physically, any woman!

So you no longer see two breasts and an ass, but rather all the elements that connect to her brain.

Great post, I wonder if there are other disciplines/activities a man can do in his life to take total control of having fun with a woman's body.

Besides sex, which is obvious, I was thinking about things like learning to give massages, and something like improvisation.

What do you think?


I'm from Texas and still live here. C&W is my fav. And not just line dancing, We have the pooka, Texas 2-step, country waltz, cotton-eyed joe (line dance) and shottice (line dance). And my fav is the Texas Swing. Back in my Rock-star 20s & 30s we hit the clubs and bars on a regular basis. Facts are that almost All women Love to dance and most of them are really pretty good at it.
 

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Line dancing with a bit of break dancing, and mixing some of my own moves if I really like the music.
Even at age 13, I considered line dancing to be incel (in as much as that term had been developed, LOL).
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Even at age 13, I considered line dancing to be incel (in as much as that term had been developed, LOL).
When I was in college, one of my buddies tried to hype us up for line dancing at a country bar on campus. I thought line dancing was corny as h*ll and thought it would be full of old folks and hill billy whales. But found out real quick, chicks dig it and the entirety of all the collegiate HB10s were congregated there.

If there is one regret I'm willing to admit and that's not picking up dancing as a hobby much earlier in my 20s like I did in my late 30s. I'd be slaying so much more poon much earlier in my life >.<
 

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I'm from Texas and still live here. C&W is my fav. And not just line dancing, We have the pooka, Texas 2-step, country waltz, cotton-eyed joe (line dance) and shottice (line dance). And my fav is the Texas Swing. Back in my Rock-star 20s & 30s we hit the clubs and bars on a regular basis. Facts are that almost All women Love to dance and most of them are really pretty good at it.
Pooka is pretty awesome, it's just triples the entire time. It's even better during oktoberfest with a legit pooka band.
 

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I don't really dance unless you count vaguely swaying my hips and/or grinding to be a "dance". I simply don't enjoy it. It's not a confidence thing - I can be completely alone in my home and drunk, listening to my favorite music, and I might not even tap my foot. It's just not my thing, in the same way that underwater cave diving is not a thing for most people.

I genuinely don't believe you need to dance to get results. The only reason to do it is if you like it. If the girl likes you it's probably going to devolve into grinding anyway so you might as well just skip right ahead to that part.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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