I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Speaking of that, this is one of my dance teacher.Ironically, it's the one that will almost always attract the most women, because it displays something that is almost universally attractive to women that can't be faked.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's an easy fix, stop moving your hips so much lol that's her jobI dance salsa, although lately I've been thinking about switching to other styles.
Salsa makes me feel a little too "feminine."
What dance styles do you know and have you practiced?
I do remember seeing some instruction on dancing where the said the guy's job is basically to highlight the woman while she does her thing. Kinda makes sense.That's an easy fix, stop moving your hips so much lol that's her job
In all seriousness west coast swing is pretty awesome. She gets to do her crazy, sexy sh*t and I get to stand there and look amazing without sweating my balls off.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I do remember seeing some instruction on dancing where the said the guy's job is basically to highlight the woman while she does her thing. Kinda makes sense.
I think dancing helps men become comfortable with rejection (dancing in front of everyone), develop an idgaf attitude, gain mastery and control over their bodies, and become sensual.
But most importantly, it teaches you how to have fun with a woman's body.
There's no going back, guys.
It's as if when you learn to dance, you now know what to do physically to a woman to have fun with her physically, any woman!
So you no longer see two breasts and an ass, but rather all the elements that connect to her brain.
Great post, I wonder if there are other disciplines/activities a man can do in his life to take total control of having fun with a woman's body.
Besides sex, which is obvious, I was thinking about things like learning to give massages, and something like improvisation.
What do you think?
Even at age 13, I considered line dancing to be incel (in as much as that term had been developed, LOL).Line dancing with a bit of break dancing, and mixing some of my own moves if I really like the music.
Even at age 13, I considered line dancing to be incel (in as much as that term had been developed, LOL).
I never thought I'd see myself doing line dancing to Nickelback O.O
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When I was in college, one of my buddies tried to hype us up for line dancing at a country bar on campus. I thought line dancing was corny as h*ll and thought it would be full of old folks and hill billy whales. But found out real quick, chicks dig it and the entirety of all the collegiate HB10s were congregated there.Even at age 13, I considered line dancing to be incel (in as much as that term had been developed, LOL).
Pooka is pretty awesome, it's just triples the entire time. It's even better during oktoberfest with a legit pooka band.I'm from Texas and still live here. C&W is my fav. And not just line dancing, We have the pooka, Texas 2-step, country waltz, cotton-eyed joe (line dance) and shottice (line dance). And my fav is the Texas Swing. Back in my Rock-star 20s & 30s we hit the clubs and bars on a regular basis. Facts are that almost All women Love to dance and most of them are really pretty good at it.
That’s great but not what we do here in Texas
I never thought I'd see myself doing line dancing to Nickelback O.O
How we do it in Florida ))That’s great but not what we do here in Texas
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.