Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Speaking of that, this is one of my dance teacher.Ironically, it's the one that will almost always attract the most women, because it displays something that is almost universally attractive to women that can't be faked.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That's an easy fix, stop moving your hips so much lol that's her jobI dance salsa, although lately I've been thinking about switching to other styles.
Salsa makes me feel a little too "feminine."
What dance styles do you know and have you practiced?
I do remember seeing some instruction on dancing where the said the guy's job is basically to highlight the woman while she does her thing. Kinda makes sense.That's an easy fix, stop moving your hips so much lol that's her job
In all seriousness west coast swing is pretty awesome. She gets to do her crazy, sexy sh*t and I get to stand there and look amazing without sweating my balls off.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I do remember seeing some instruction on dancing where the said the guy's job is basically to highlight the woman while she does her thing. Kinda makes sense.
I think dancing helps men become comfortable with rejection (dancing in front of everyone), develop an idgaf attitude, gain mastery and control over their bodies, and become sensual.
But most importantly, it teaches you how to have fun with a woman's body.
There's no going back, guys.
It's as if when you learn to dance, you now know what to do physically to a woman to have fun with her physically, any woman!
So you no longer see two breasts and an ass, but rather all the elements that connect to her brain.
Great post, I wonder if there are other disciplines/activities a man can do in his life to take total control of having fun with a woman's body.
Besides sex, which is obvious, I was thinking about things like learning to give massages, and something like improvisation.
What do you think?
Even at age 13, I considered line dancing to be incel (in as much as that term had been developed, LOL).Line dancing with a bit of break dancing, and mixing some of my own moves if I really like the music.
Even at age 13, I considered line dancing to be incel (in as much as that term had been developed, LOL).
I never thought I'd see myself doing line dancing to Nickelback O.O
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When I was in college, one of my buddies tried to hype us up for line dancing at a country bar on campus. I thought line dancing was corny as h*ll and thought it would be full of old folks and hill billy whales. But found out real quick, chicks dig it and the entirety of all the collegiate HB10s were congregated there.Even at age 13, I considered line dancing to be incel (in as much as that term had been developed, LOL).
Pooka is pretty awesome, it's just triples the entire time. It's even better during oktoberfest with a legit pooka band.I'm from Texas and still live here. C&W is my fav. And not just line dancing, We have the pooka, Texas 2-step, country waltz, cotton-eyed joe (line dance) and shottice (line dance). And my fav is the Texas Swing. Back in my Rock-star 20s & 30s we hit the clubs and bars on a regular basis. Facts are that almost All women Love to dance and most of them are really pretty good at it.
That’s great but not what we do here in Texas
I never thought I'd see myself doing line dancing to Nickelback O.O
How we do it in Florida ))That’s great but not what we do here in Texas
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.