parkthebus
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 6, 2015
- Messages
- 500
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- Age
- 39
Do you take different women to different places? Do you have different locations for different outcomes?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yeah, come to think of it. Whenever I got the chance to do the Vespa date, I never got anything less than a bj - had great mini-LTRs with all three of those girls actually. Power of preselection? Can safely say that the Vespa has also worked against me with some women but meh.Vespa date ftw?
Love it - something to be said for recreating that teenage vibe.Then I say, "Hey, let's go make out on an abandoned bridge!"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How do these women usually respond to the bridge comment? Do they think youre serious? And what sort of demographic are they?We take a motorcycle ride to a winery down the road from my house. She has two glasses of wine; I have two beers. The bill is $20. Then I say, "Hey, let's go make out on an abandoned bridge!" It works a lot better than the 'come back to my place' cliche. Women will say yes to something that does not sound like an invitation to fvck. And of course, we don't. Usually we do about everything but fvck, though. That bridge has gotten me more than one bj.
After a date like that is over, a girl knows that if she sees me again, we're going to fvck. Maybe that's not what she wants, fine with me, but I am very clear about my intentions, even though I do it without being pushy.
SUBWAY???Starbucks, Subway, Cold Stone Creamery, Dos Toros, or this spot I like called Republic. Why do I go there you ask? Because it's good and it's cheap.
What's wrong with Subway's? They have good sandwiches.SUBWAY???
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.