parkthebus
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Do you take different women to different places? Do you have different locations for different outcomes?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Where do you go on first dates and why?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
dustmuffin
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I take women to the same place for a first date. Second date invite them over to my house so we can drive together to mexican place. We usually don't make it to eat.
blind_one
Master Don Juan
I usually take them to a local pub thats like 8 minutes walk from my place. We grab a quart of beer in a nice big mug. Then I say " lets grab some fresh air" and I just lead her to my place.
spiegel549
Senior Don Juan
All depends on the type of woman you are taking out. If I know that she is a easy lay I will take her to a spot walking distance of my place and get drinks so its easier to get her to come back and bang. If she is of any quality, and educated, I will take her to a fun spot. Bowling, pool, beach, always has to have a bar to have a few drinks. Makes the girl more comfortable and loosens the tension on her end. Boom.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Maximus Rex
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Starbucks, Subway, Cold Stone Creamery, Dos Toros, or this spot I like called Republic. Why do I go there you ask? Because it's good and it's cheap.
marmel75
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I had great success with bars with darts. Have a drink, play darts which allows you to do a lot of flirty things, have another drink, make out, and go try and bang. Almost all dates that included darts ended up with me banging her at some point...success other wise was 50/50 at best...fun activities do a lot for your chances...
Oh man is it nice to see a useful thread for once.
Haven't dated much since I moved to the country for work. Making bank, but the women here suuuuuuuck - it's not the good kind of "country".
First date was always a hipstery-coffee-dessert-lounge with private booths. No liquor license though
Second date was either a drive-in movie or a two-up cruise on my Vespa.
Half of the battle is logistics - I'd definitely do more local stuff if I had my time again.
Haven't dated much since I moved to the country for work. Making bank, but the women here suuuuuuuck - it's not the good kind of "country".
First date was always a hipstery-coffee-dessert-lounge with private booths. No liquor license though
Second date was either a drive-in movie or a two-up cruise on my Vespa.
Half of the battle is logistics - I'd definitely do more local stuff if I had my time again.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
Vespa date ftw?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
We take a motorcycle ride to a winery down the road from my house. She has two glasses of wine; I have two beers. The bill is $20. Then I say, "Hey, let's go make out on an abandoned bridge!" It works a lot better than the 'come back to my place' cliche. Women will say yes to something that does not sound like an invitation to fvck. And of course, we don't. Usually we do about everything but fvck, though. That bridge has gotten me more than one bj.
After a date like that is over, a girl knows that if she sees me again, we're going to fvck. Maybe that's not what she wants, fine with me, but I am very clear about my intentions, even though I do it without being pushy.
After a date like that is over, a girl knows that if she sees me again, we're going to fvck. Maybe that's not what she wants, fine with me, but I am very clear about my intentions, even though I do it without being pushy.
Random chick, who I do no have super high interest in fvcking. Keep it cheap on the first date, simple coffeehouse or split the bill for a simple restaurant.
Girl who is super hot, or who I want to fvck very, very, badly... And this is in very exceptional circumstances. Take her on an adventure date to the rock gym for rock climbing, or parasailing on Virgnia Beach. Yes it costs a bit more, but these are things I enjoy doing myself so often I just use them as an excuse or reason. Plus, I find that women are super into the crazy adventure date and it scores major points to be action oriented.
Girl who is super hot, or who I want to fvck very, very, badly... And this is in very exceptional circumstances. Take her on an adventure date to the rock gym for rock climbing, or parasailing on Virgnia Beach. Yes it costs a bit more, but these are things I enjoy doing myself so often I just use them as an excuse or reason. Plus, I find that women are super into the crazy adventure date and it scores major points to be action oriented.
Yeah, come to think of it. Whenever I got the chance to do the Vespa date, I never got anything less than a bj - had great mini-LTRs with all three of those girls actually. Power of preselection? Can safely say that the Vespa has also worked against me with some women but meh.
Love it - something to be said for recreating that teenage vibe.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
parkthebus
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How do these women usually respond to the bridge comment? Do they think youre serious? And what sort of demographic are they?
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
It's always gone well. And I am serious; they can tell. As far as demographic, most of these were internet dates off Plenty of Fish, ages 26-36. The motorcycle helps, too. A girl who won't get on it is probably a girl who won't put out on the first or second date.
SUBWAY???
Maximus Rex
Banned
What's wrong with Subway's? They have good sandwiches.
@marmel75 - interesting. I was out with an HB7 Asian chick last night - she got real excited when she saw darts on the TV - course I took the chance to slip in some extra kino as u do any time they get excited ;-) Trouble is good luck finding anywhere that will let you play with sharp things in feminised Melbourne.
I'd pay the Vespa date - nursie is dying to get on the back of my motorbike. Of course I have a 250 with very little seat room so she's going to have to snuggle in nice and tight. Instant Kino and her sitting on basically a big vibrator - how could you lose.
I'd pay the Vespa date - nursie is dying to get on the back of my motorbike. Of course I have a 250 with very little seat room so she's going to have to snuggle in nice and tight. Instant Kino and her sitting on basically a big vibrator - how could you lose.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.