parkthebus
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 6, 2015
- Messages
- 500
- Reaction score
- 148
- Age
- 39
Do you take different women to different places? Do you have different locations for different outcomes?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yeah, come to think of it. Whenever I got the chance to do the Vespa date, I never got anything less than a bj - had great mini-LTRs with all three of those girls actually. Power of preselection? Can safely say that the Vespa has also worked against me with some women but meh.Vespa date ftw?
Love it - something to be said for recreating that teenage vibe.Then I say, "Hey, let's go make out on an abandoned bridge!"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How do these women usually respond to the bridge comment? Do they think youre serious? And what sort of demographic are they?We take a motorcycle ride to a winery down the road from my house. She has two glasses of wine; I have two beers. The bill is $20. Then I say, "Hey, let's go make out on an abandoned bridge!" It works a lot better than the 'come back to my place' cliche. Women will say yes to something that does not sound like an invitation to fvck. And of course, we don't. Usually we do about everything but fvck, though. That bridge has gotten me more than one bj.
After a date like that is over, a girl knows that if she sees me again, we're going to fvck. Maybe that's not what she wants, fine with me, but I am very clear about my intentions, even though I do it without being pushy.
SUBWAY???Starbucks, Subway, Cold Stone Creamery, Dos Toros, or this spot I like called Republic. Why do I go there you ask? Because it's good and it's cheap.
What's wrong with Subway's? They have good sandwiches.SUBWAY???
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.