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Master Don Juan
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Participation trophies started with early 1980s births, so most 35-39 year olds were part of the whole participation trophy/self esteem boosting movement of parenting in the 1990s/early 2000s.The advantage of late thirties women is that there's still a chance they aren't part of the participation trophy generation and that they were raised properly
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Women in their late twenties usually rush new relationships towards marriage. It is also likely that they just got off long-term relationships for whatever reason.That said, I'll take a 28 year old first if she fits the bill.
This is usually baby rabies, I would run from that too.Women in their late twenties usually rush new relationships towards marriage. It is also likely that they just got off long-term relationships for whatever reason.
These women will unashamedly chase you if they want you. They scare me, to be honest.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
But with any investment, expected returns need to be gauged against risk. What if you spent all of 2018 and 2019 working on yourself and then 2020 hits with Covid and you can't get laid due to widespread skittish pu$sy? What if something similar happens? You can't just assume continuity of society. As an anecdotal aside, my Dad has said that what went on in the 1960's pales in comparison to the chaos and disruption on modern times.Instead of worrying about women, lets worry about YOU. What should your priorities be approaching 40 and in the 40's? Having the priorities right, especially when it pertains to women is MORE ATTRACTIVE and it keeps your ship from getting sunk!
I was born in the first half of the 1980s and there was a focus in the 1990s upon building self-esteem and coddling in the educational and social circles I was in during childhood.not sure where you’re from but I was early 80s and it most certainly wasn’t like that for me. I think this really is evident in people currently under 30. Most people around late 30s there is a real difference
For an LTR?Whats the criteria you seek in women?
For myself.
1. Women at nearing 40 years of age possibly in their late 30's
2. Aging gracefully.
3. Emotionally stable.
4. Are still in shape
5. Financially resilience in manner of should have less debt. At her age.
Might be look like this..
I can agree on that too and your bullet points. Pretty much the same for me too.For an LTR?
1.) No kids or grown kids
2.) No financial wrecks, she has to pull her own weight
3.) Feminine, not feminist
4.) Doesnt require me to correct her behaviour all the time to stay in line. If i wanted a dog, id get one.
5.) Attractive and sane
6.) Takes good care of my dyck
7.) Accepts that marriage is out of the question
8.) Makes my life easier, not harder
And women in their late 30's don't chase??Women in their late twenties usually rush new relationships towards marriage. It is also likely that they just got off long-term relationships for whatever reason.
These women will unashamedly chase you if they want you. They scare me, to be honest.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I am a United States resident and was raised in the United States. I was in suburbs of major cities during a large part of my childhood.SW15 is that London? I can imagine - either if you’re middle class, if went on a lot in these circles. Or, if you weren’t middle class and had one of those trendy labour councils full of this nonsense.
I was outside of London in a standard comp and school was dog eat dog and the teachers did nothing. My parents definitely didn’t have the “well-being first” vibe. If anything most me/friends parents just wanted the kids out the house so they could drink and watch telly.