Exactly my point, “ 3 over the years”Over the years, I had sex with three married women who wanted me to impregnate them.
Exactly my point, “ 3 over the years”Over the years, I had sex with three married women who wanted me to impregnate them.
Yes, the other thirty didn't want bastard babies, just bastard sex.Exactly my point, “ 3 over the years”
Again, exactly my pointYes, the other thirty didn't want bastard babies, just bastard sex.
I don't give a f*ck what she was on IG for and I dont really care about her IG anymore. I do care that she never lies to me, or does whatever *this* thing is again.Okay so time to update.
MM: do you have anything you want me to know?
Wife(W): I dont know what you're getting at.
MM: Have you deleted your Instagram?
W: (looking semi-caught) No.
MM: When is the last time you logged in?
W: Earlier today.
MM: What were you on there for?
W: I needed school resources (our daughter is homeschooled by her) and found one or two things that I could use for the gym.
MM: How often are you going on IG?
W: not very much, but when I need things for T's(daughter's) school.
MM: Why did you not delete your IG when I asked you to? You said it would take a month to transfer information and it's been 4.
W: I needed more information for this year.
MM: And you didn't think telling me that up front would land better than me finding out on my own..?
(insert argument here)
W: (in tears) Did you come home to find reasons to divorce me?
MM: No. I came home with hopes you were going to give me reasons to stay.
W: (with more tears) Are you seeing/looking for anyone else?
MM: No, but it would be nice. The way you're handling these things makes me want to.
W: (not as many tears) IDK how to make you want to stay. You only tell me I'm pretty when I'm blowing you or we're f*cking.
MM: ...
MM: It's when you look prettiest. I need to be able to trust you.
W: Do you want me to delete my IG?
MM: Do what you want with it. I don't care about your IG, I care that you didn't follow through on your promise and left me to find out on my own. (true)
W: ...
MM: ...
MM: *walks into office to do school*
(15 minutes go by)
W: *comes in and kisses me on the forehead before taking our daughter to gymnastics* (she rarely does this).
W: Goodbye.
MM: Bye.
We'll see what happens when they get back in like 5 hours.
make sure you stomp your boot when you demand her complianceThe boundary is set and she's gone if she crosses it.
Do I do it like at the exact same time, or maybe like a little after I demand it?make sure you stomp your boot when you demand her compliance
Yes. No.Do I do it like at the exact same time, or maybe like a little after I demand it?
Should I announce that I'm putting my foot down as I do it?
I was in a comparable situation with my wife for 3 times by now.How would you approach this situation?
Partially agree, and firmly agree.It doesn’t sound like she is afraid of you leaving, OP. She just doesn’t respect you as much as a wife needs to.
Men, this fear must exist from the beginning. You can’t “create” it in her.
I'm in the process of doing that now.your gonna have to red pill her if that's what you want which isn't unheard of
She may be fine for a few weeks but slowly this is going to eat at her and likely make her bitter and resentful toward you.Okay so time to update.
MM: do you have anything you want me to know?
Wife(W): I dont know what you're getting at.
MM: Have you deleted your Instagram?
W: (looking semi-caught) No.
MM: When is the last time you logged in?
W: Earlier today.
MM: What were you on there for?
W: I needed school resources (our daughter is homeschooled by her) and found one or two things that I could use for the gym.
MM: How often are you going on IG?
W: not very much, but when I need things for T's(daughter's) school.
MM: Why did you not delete your IG when I asked you to? You said it would take a month to transfer information and it's been 4.
W: I needed more information for this year.
MM: And you didn't think telling me that up front would land better than me finding out on my own..?
(insert argument here)
W: (in tears) Did you come home to find reasons to divorce me?
MM: No. I came home with hopes you were going to give me reasons to stay.
W: (with more tears) Are you seeing/looking for anyone else?
MM: No, but it would be nice. The way you're handling these things makes me want to.
W: (not as many tears) IDK how to make you want to stay. You only tell me I'm pretty when I'm blowing you or we're f*cking.
MM: ...
MM: It's when you look prettiest. I need to be able to trust you.
W: Do you want me to delete my IG?
MM: Do what you want with it. I don't care about your IG, I care that you didn't follow through on your promise and left me to find out on my own. (true)
W: ...
MM: ...
MM: *walks into office to do school*
(15 minutes go by)
W: *comes in and kisses me on the forehead before taking our daughter to gymnastics* (she rarely does this).
W: Goodbye.
MM: Bye.
We'll see what happens when they get back in like 5 hours.
She crossed a line and was very well aware of what she was doing. If she wants to be resentful of that, she is welcome to do so. I'll be filling a backup roster either way.She may be fine for a few weeks but slowly this is going to eat at her and likely make her bitter and resentful toward you.
I'd forget the ring tattoo and forget about her getting rid of her Instagram. She didn't fulfill her part of the deal, and the tattoo would be more permanent. In any case, both parts are issues of mistrust that goes deeper than not wearing a ring or having an Instagram. The question would be why is that? Maybe that's what is needed to be worked on.How would you approach this situation?
Curious if she wears one? Maybe you mention it later in the thread. Wondering why it's a problem for her.Due to work environment and time in the gym, it's not very reasonable for me to wear a ring. This has been a problem in my wife's eyes for years
I wouldn't be issuing demands. If someone's gonna cheat, she's gonna cheat. I prefer to be quietly vigilant and if there's bad behavior, keep track and make a decision. Doesn't mean play detective, just pay attention. The lying is not a good sign as she doesn't respect you. As others say she has to fear losing you.How would you approach this situation?
To be honest mate, I don't agree with the ring tattoo.Due to work environment and time in the gym, it's not very reasonable for me to wear a ring. This has been a problem in my wife's eyes for years, so I made a proposition: I'll get a ring tattoo (my idea) but she needs to delete her instagram, change her last name, and cut contact with someone I know was on her backup roster (she never admitted this, but WYK,YK).
She's working on the name change (takes a long time in the states), has cut contact with backup (to my knowledge, which I don't quite trust anymore), and said she needed 1 month to transfer stuff off her instagram for our daughter's school (credible reason and I allowed it). I already have the ring tattoo.
It's been about 4 months now and I had a suspicion and checked... it shows her last login was yesterday. Verizon data usage shows 3gb usage monthly since I told her to delete it. I didn't bother following up on this because I thought I could trust her. I was wrong.
I want to ask for her phone, check her IG messages, download her activity usage, and send it to my phone. I'm very seriously considering divorce at this time. She lied to me, has continued to lie to me, and I don't think I can trust her.
How would you approach this situation?
Lets try to come up with more nuanced responses than "just leave her", please and thank you.
The moment you have to demand your gf/wife/whatever to do X and not do X, you have already lost.Due to work environment and time in the gym, it's not very reasonable for me to wear a ring. This has been a problem in my wife's eyes for years, so I made a proposition: I'll get a ring tattoo (my idea) but she needs to delete her instagram, change her last name, and cut contact with someone I know was on her backup roster (she never admitted this, but WYK,YK).
It is better not to use something if you do not understand it, otherwise you will end up doing extremely dumb thingsThats a little disappointing coming fro. You. Hope its sarcasm.
I would say OP needs to use his RP toolbox a bit better. He hasnt solidified the fundamentals yet.
If anything hes got to get back to the wood shed.