Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Or, rather than just a "source", keep her as a friend and still just flow through life. Try again with someone who has a high interest level, though.switch said:NEXT her, go after someone who has a high IL
use her if she has hot friends otherwise keep her as a source for your information network
Totally agree but for guys who have trouble attracting women, they're likely to wonder "where the F do I find a girl with high interest?".switch said:NEXT her, go after someone who has a high IL
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
all females like multiple men... dont ever think that you are the only man she wants to F even if she is your wife...Bumsniff said:When you like a girl who likes someone else how do you react if at all?
What if she or friends tell you: Don't worry you'll find someone for you.
that might be your style, but i personally don't have the nerves to "induce" interest in a girl, since it's a pain in the a$$ to keep the interest levelthevilittletroll said:i have a different opinion on this matter. i dont believe in this crap about finding a girl with high interest level. you are the one who controls her interest level. if you've done a good job attracting her from the first place her interest levels should be high. if her interest levels are low then you obviously screwed up somewhere. if the girl is not in a commited relationship, and she only "likes" someone is no excuse to next her. chicks change their minds all the time. most guys are lame and will screw up their chances. then she'll start liking someone else. take your chances, make your moves. go after what you want, every girl has a guy in her phone that she likes. why not make that guy be you? learn from your mistakes, but keep working on your attraction game. if there is one piece of advice i can give you its this. you'll have more success going too far than not far enough.
Mike32ct said:There is only one solid attraction game. It's called looks.
You can't create attraction with "game." The best you can do is increase the attraction that is already there with proper game.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.