abe0
Senior Don Juan
Many months ago. For whatever reasons the last four women I've dated don't do much cuddling.....kind of cold. I dont want to sound too betta.....but I miss cuddling. I do have a dog.....but its not the same. Abe
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You miss cuddling? Wait until you have a needy woman who wants it all the time then you won't miss it anymore. Best option is to bang her until she can't walk, then no cuddling is needed because she goes right to sleep and you get up and do whatever you want.abe0 said:Many months ago. For whatever reasons the last four women I've dated don't do much cuddling.....kind of cold. I dont want to sound too betta.....but I miss cuddling. I do have a dog.....but its not the same. Abe
Yeah I only said that because it happens to me. Doing it raw I last under 5 minutes usually. If I use the condom I can go indefinitely. So you planning to have a kid or what? We are not really planning anything but if it happens it happens. Not trying to prevent it at this point.LiveFreeX said:Its really cold here right now actually, so cuddling provides much needed heat.
But yes to answer your question, I am doing it raw and on average I think its more like 5 to 10 minutes. haha.Its kind of unfair because I usually just plug in, do my thing, roll over and back to sleep.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This...MtnMan said:Saturday. I like to bang it out animal style, take a quick nap/cuddle and bang it out some more, nap again. Rinse and repeat as many times as necessary.