You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
these are actually pretty good. whena girl asks something relating to past gf's, it definitely mean they have high IL in you.Originally posted by The_King
I would take it as an oppurtunity to increase the interest level by laying on the C + F or similar stuff... maybe say something like
"Oh quite far ....to the next state, did that answer your question?"
" I don't kiss and tell"
"C'mon, what do you think! (with a knowing look)"
"look you can't seduce me that way...I think your going to have to try abit harder"
"which one?"
"I will tell you, when I think you deserve to know"
"why does it always revovle around sex with you? don't you want to get to know the real me...I hate it when women do this to me...your just like all the rest"
Those are the sort of replies I would fire back if I felt they were in the context.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I would not use this, as it just seems too sweet and innocent, AFC, whether it be true or not. It also seems like a line out of some chick-flick..remain a challenge, be a man. That comment then action would you require you to really know the girl and of been dating for awhile otherwise it seems fake."Ive messed around with other girls but Im waiting for the right person to have sex with"
Means she wants her Salad Tossed... followed by a Dirty Sanchez...Originally posted by phish
"How far have you been with other girls?" What could/does that mean?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I was wondering why chicks ask me how many other girls I've slept with. I just got asked this when I was spittin game at some HB8 who was sexy as hell.Originally posted by GaryNas
No offence, but it seems like something a girl in high school would ask. Maybe she's a virgin since the more typical question is "How many people have you slept with?", not asking how far you've gone.
Don't you mean the "SOUTH Pole?"Originally posted by Ol'BlueEyes
Tell her you took a girl to the north pole....than pause for a second to let the double-entendre sink in.![]()
"Why do you want to know? It doesn't have to be a competition."Originally posted by phish
"How far have you been with other girls?"
(in the voice of Vic Romano)Don't you mean the "SOUTH Pole?"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.