"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a girl asks...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
CrazyGoNuts
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She could be a lil sexually inexperienced herself, but she is interested in you and whats to know how "far" you've gone as well. Sometimes girls can be a bit cautious when they start to really explore sex stuff with guys and are too embarrassed to do it with someone who has considerable more experience than they do. Remember, girls have self-conscious issues too..
i am taking it further
so im guessing shes interested in knowing this because she wants to know if she can go further without feeling embarassed?? im kinda confused about the whole thing..
at the time, i felt that i should say i have only done certain things as to not intimidate her...it felt right to me.
so i actually held back some stuff/lied.
i think i did the best thing for my situtation - feel free to criticize me tho
i'd still like more detail on what this question "means" from a girl.
CrazyGoNuts
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"Oh quite far ....to the next state, did that answer your question?"
" I don't kiss and tell"
"C'mon, what do you think! (with a knowing look)"
"look you can't seduce me that way...I think your going to have to try abit harder"
"which one?"
"I will tell you, when I think you deserve to know"
"why does it always revovle around sex with you? don't you want to get to know the real me...I hate it when women do this to me...your just like all the rest"
Those are the sort of replies I would fire back if I felt they were in the context.
these are actually pretty good. whena girl asks something relating to past gf's, it definitely mean they have high IL in you.
my friend did that **** to me, asked me how much gf's i had in the past. I just walked around the question and not really answering it.
but yea, the safest way is to avoid being AFC and answering her straight out. cause you'll never know what answer she expects to hear from you, which will increase her IL if you dont tell her.
similarly, this is also a test they throw at you.
DJ Alejandro
Senior Don Juan
wants to know how experienced you are.
my present girlfriend once asked me,
"are you a player? ive heard you are. "
i juz smiled. and now we're a couple.
you don't have to answer every question she throws at ya.
leave a sense of mystery.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I would not use this, as it just seems too sweet and innocent, AFC, whether it be true or not. It also seems like a line out of some chick-flick..remain a challenge, be a man. That comment then action would you require you to really know the girl and of been dating for awhile otherwise it seems fake.
I may be wrong, it might work in the right situation, like both drunk and both sitting on your bed but its definately nothing I would recommend. I would rather use one of my comments from above, look her in the eyes then glance at her lips, then back to her eyes then go in for the kill.
InLawsHateMe
Master Don Juan
Means she wants her Salad Tossed... followed by a Dirty Sanchez...
Tell her you'll fart in her mouth.... then say 'How's that for going far?'
Ol'BlueEyes
Senior Don Juan
Tell her you took a girl to the north pole....than pause for a second to let the double-entendre sink in.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Don't you mean the "SOUTH Pole?"Originally posted by Ol'BlueEyes
Tell her you took a girl to the north pole....than pause for a second to let the double-entendre sink in.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"Why do you want to know? It doesn't have to be a competition."
Ol'BlueEyes
Senior Don Juan
(in the voice of Vic Romano)
Right you are, Fran.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.