"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What's your opinion about gals that smoke?

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SmooveMooves

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Maryjane or cigarettes?

I think most people dislike cigarette smokers boy or girl because they stink. Weed is fine in my book. In my age bracket a lot of women are doing drugs. Rather it be good ole fashioned weed than the harder stuff.
 

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Not relationship material. There's something about being addicted to that stuff that is a red flag to me. There's also those women who are 'social smokers' as in they only smoke when other people around them are. That screams insecurity to me and if they're around the crowd that smokes to begin with and they aren't able to resist the social pressure of not smoking, who's to say they'll be able to resist when the stronger stuff comes out? I don't like it.
 

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I think 99% of SS would go out with a smoker if she looked good. It's not like SS members are drowning in good looking girls or having too much sex. But suddenly we are alpha and that good looking to be that picky? It's like if the girl has a small flaw, we become James Bond.

More than half the time I think the men on this site are fooling themselves to make themselves feel better. :rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Milano

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Doesnt work for me, and told the same thing to my first girlfriend who thought I was being alfa and loved it when it really was just growing up with a mom who smoked all day long and eventually got lung cancer and died a horrible slow death. Not relationship material if she doesnt stop smoking, absolutely hate it.
 

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I used to be a smoker and dated many women who did as well. Now that I've been there, I wouldn't want them for a relationship. It's a disruption to life, having to take breaks from it to have a cigarette. It's also a money pit.

Women have an extremely difficult time quitting smoking. I honestly believe that they form an emotional bond with cigarettes.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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lizardking82

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I don't like girls who smoke, but I've dated and ****ed smokers. I don't see it as a deal breaker for sex, but I don't like that for a LTR.
 

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just yuk, no
 

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SmooveMooves

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I think 99% of SS would go out with a smoker if she looked good. It's not like SS members are drowning in good looking girls or having too much sex. But suddenly we are alpha and that good looking to be that picky? It's like if the girl has a small flaw, we become James Bond.

More than half the time I think the men on this site are fooling themselves to make themselves feel better. :rolleyes:

I agree. Members of sosuave live in a fantasy world. They don't settle for anything less than absolute perfection. She can't drink or smoke, have any personal flaws, goto parties, have friends, have tattoos or piercings, or be less than 9.5.

Cause members here are swimming in pūssy!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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