"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Whats with the BPD obsession on these forums?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
BrainDamage92
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when two people are together their personalities merge with time. So if one has Borderline personality, the other ones brain becomes a piece of ****t with time and then when its over this is a good place to talk about it so,..old_skoolr
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salinechow
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Also, this is a discussion forum. People discuss topics. Like any other social dynamic, certain topics sometimes become "hot".
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
They also need an excuse to stop pursuing a girl they know they dont have a chance with too.
I think its because they're just scared.
dk1990S111
Master Don Juan
I think you need to find yourself one, be with her for a few years, then see if you are unchanged. I was with one that fits the BPD diagnosis exactly and she totally fvcked with my mind, I am still not the same. They break you down mentally.ImTheDoubleGreatest! said:
A lot of guys find this forum because of crap with their gf who might actually have BPD or might just be a crazy b1tch. So even though there might only be 1-2% of the population that has BPD, the majority of guys posting here about it have experienced being with one.
Bible_Belt
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VladPatton
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
And the problem here is males are beta, and crazy is crazy and bad behavior is bad behavior no matter what the fukk "disorder" you want to call it. And justifying your current state and having some female be your entire world and shake your being to its core is pretty fukked up in my mind regardless of anything else going on.
Some of you guys are talking like you escaped world war Z. More like World War B...for Beta.
A little common sense goes a long way...and allowing a chick to take control of you ultimately is YOUR fault...NOT hers.
EveryPostHere
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If anything we need more posts about BPD, social media, and never talking to the women we like in person. These new comers who know better than us, and have much to teach. They need to teach us how to evolve in the world where all chicks have BPD, and if you use the right combination of social media apps you'll be rolling in puzzy.
MODERN WORLD FTW
Rock on :rockon:
salinechow said:
Yup.
A lot of men join these forums because they've been fvcked mentally by a BPD and are scrambled. If you're questioning why dating a BPD has such a profound impact on a man's very livelihood, then you're an extremely lucky man. Simple as. I hope that luck keeps up for you. I would only wish that sh!t on my worst enemy and no one else.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Maximus Rex
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Why Are There So Many Threads on Bipolar Chicks on So Suave? http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212103
sylvester the cat
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It's Borderline Personality Disorder that is being discussed lately not Bipolar.Maximus Rex said:
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
The facts are, 1-2% of people have BPD. That's including men, meaning the percentage of women with BPD is a lot smaller. The internet age has allowed people to become psuedo Psychiatrists, Dentists, and Health Officials. People read a set a symptoms online and start offering thier expert diagnosis. Similar to the guy who reads WebMD & start worrying he may have cancer.ImTheDoubleGreatest! said:
It's annoying seeing Sosauvians bítch about "BPD" women, cause then we get misinformation spreading around and guys like ImTheDoubleGreatest! thinking 15-30% of women have a serious mental disorder. Lol. Seriously?
So to all my "BPD" ex girl war vets who are lucky to had survived, I say three things.
-Basing off statistics, chances are, she wasn't really BPD.
-Chances are the next chick you date won't be either.
-If you truly were in the less than 1%, Nobody forced you to date these chicks. & You chose her.
VikingKing
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Some experienced a bdp. Some have bad experiances where they were played hard and claim she had bdp.Julian said:
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
According to what? Your medical opinion?PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Counting all Cluster B personality disorders, it is estimated 5% of the general population in the US are affected. According to Sonia G. Austrian a social scientist.
And when Sosuavians scream BPD they mean BPD because they then proceed to copy & paste symptoms from MayoClinic trying to "draw the parallels"
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.