Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I think you need to find yourself one, be with her for a few years, then see if you are unchanged. I was with one that fits the BPD diagnosis exactly and she totally fvcked with my mind, I am still not the same. They break you down mentally.ImTheDoubleGreatest! said:Its because they need an excuse as to why they don't understand a girl or why they failed with one. According to the boards here, about 70%-80% of all women are BPDs which is SO far off from the truth. Its more like 15%-30% at most.
They also need an excuse to stop pursuing a girl they know they dont have a chance with too.
I think its because they're just scared.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think you need to get involved with a BPD...go out and find yourself one. See what kind of a hellish mindfvck you'll go through, then form an opinion.ImTheDoubleGreatest! said:Its because they need an excuse as to why they don't understand a girl or why they failed with one. According to the boards here, about 70%-80% of all women are BPDs which is SO far off from the truth. Its more like 15%-30% at most.
They also need an excuse to stop pursuing a girl they know they dont have a chance with too.
I think its because they're just scared.
salinechow said:Go through one. Then you will understand.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's Borderline Personality Disorder that is being discussed lately not Bipolar.Maximus Rex said:Why Are There So Many Threads on Bipolar Chicks on So Suave? http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212103
The facts are, 1-2% of people have BPD. That's including men, meaning the percentage of women with BPD is a lot smaller. The internet age has allowed people to become psuedo Psychiatrists, Dentists, and Health Officials. People read a set a symptoms online and start offering thier expert diagnosis. Similar to the guy who reads WebMD & start worrying he may have cancer.ImTheDoubleGreatest! said:Its because they need an excuse as to why they don't understand a girl or why they failed with one. According to the boards here, about 70%-80% of all women are BPDs which is SO far off from the truth. Its more like 15%-30% at most
Some experienced a bdp. Some have bad experiances where they were played hard and claim she had bdp.Julian said:Seriously wtf is going on
According to what? Your medical opinion?PairPlusRoyalFlush said:most of the BPD deniers are themselves cluster B.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.