course they would they want to know you desire them, and hoped youd spend resources on them
texting is a weak mans game of no return, it should be limited to 4-5 messages here and there
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What's the best way to ask a girl out over text
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texting is a weak mans game of no return, it should be limited to 4-5 messages here and there
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Nah, get with the times bro. You seem like you are stuck in a time warp. That advice is great in 1995 not so great in 2021.
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That’s using texting as a crutch. Yes they both can work but why make it easier on her? The point of calling is to gauge her interest. How excited does she sound? People can’t easily bullshyt their way through voice inflection.
mrgoodstuff
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Great. A babe into you craves the sound of your voice. She's highly suggestable because she wants to be round you.
UPDATE
I asked her and I think it's a no. I'll wait till next week then forget about it.
Here is an audio of how it went, what do you think?
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CBI-Yp1nqEjlBauN8ApvG_O8HYpavBSP/view?usp=sharing
@BackInTheGame78 @billtx49 @EyeBRollin @Roober
I asked her and I think it's a no. I'll wait till next week then forget about it.
Here is an audio of how it went, what do you think?
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CBI-Yp1nqEjlBauN8ApvG_O8HYpavBSP/view?usp=sharing
@BackInTheGame78 @billtx49 @EyeBRollin @Roober
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mrgoodstuff
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Forget about it. Wheres your self respect?
Okay. but did I ask properly
mrgoodstuff
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Fvck properly. Those "bad boys" they give their body to aint' doing a damn thing "properly"...
mrgoodstuff
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A "bad boy" ain't necessarily a bad dude. He has personal power because he knows his worth. Blue pill, jealous and the f word hates to see this.
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This is why you don't cal unless you are confident and sure of yourself. You sounded afraid and nervous. Didn't matter what you said, it was likely going to be a no because of it.
This is another reason why unless you are really good on the phone that you should text until you feel more comfortable doing it.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
So this is a sure no? I didn't know I sounded nervous. Anyway it's an experience to learn from
getting with the times, and being a man and leading your domain is two different things.
messaging is a womans game. led by women, phones are a womans domain.
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Not typically... I know people don't like Corey Wayne, but his approach on dates is simple... "Create an opportunity for sex to happen"
After you've seen her a couple times, mornings are okay. Early on, it's not likely to create an opportunity for sex.
