course they would they want to know you desire them, and hoped youd spend resources on them
texting is a weak mans game of no return, it should be limited to 4-5 messages here and there
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What's the best way to ask a girl out over text
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texting is a weak mans game of no return, it should be limited to 4-5 messages here and there
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Nah, get with the times bro. You seem like you are stuck in a time warp. That advice is great in 1995 not so great in 2021.
EyeBRollin
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That’s using texting as a crutch. Yes they both can work but why make it easier on her? The point of calling is to gauge her interest. How excited does she sound? People can’t easily bullshyt their way through voice inflection.
mrgoodstuff
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Great. A babe into you craves the sound of your voice. She's highly suggestable because she wants to be round you.
UPDATE
I asked her and I think it's a no. I'll wait till next week then forget about it.
Here is an audio of how it went, what do you think?
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CBI-Yp1nqEjlBauN8ApvG_O8HYpavBSP/view?usp=sharing
@BackInTheGame78 @billtx49 @EyeBRollin @Roober
I asked her and I think it's a no. I'll wait till next week then forget about it.
Here is an audio of how it went, what do you think?
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CBI-Yp1nqEjlBauN8ApvG_O8HYpavBSP/view?usp=sharing
@BackInTheGame78 @billtx49 @EyeBRollin @Roober
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
mrgoodstuff
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Forget about it. Wheres your self respect?
Okay. but did I ask properly
mrgoodstuff
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Fvck properly. Those "bad boys" they give their body to aint' doing a damn thing "properly"...
mrgoodstuff
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A "bad boy" ain't necessarily a bad dude. He has personal power because he knows his worth. Blue pill, jealous and the f word hates to see this.
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This is why you don't cal unless you are confident and sure of yourself. You sounded afraid and nervous. Didn't matter what you said, it was likely going to be a no because of it.
This is another reason why unless you are really good on the phone that you should text until you feel more comfortable doing it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
So this is a sure no? I didn't know I sounded nervous. Anyway it's an experience to learn from
getting with the times, and being a man and leading your domain is two different things.
messaging is a womans game. led by women, phones are a womans domain.
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Not typically... I know people don't like Corey Wayne, but his approach on dates is simple... "Create an opportunity for sex to happen"
After you've seen her a couple times, mornings are okay. Early on, it's not likely to create an opportunity for sex.
