mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Why?Dammit my EQ is low af
My ex thought I was a robot.
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Why?Dammit my EQ is low af
My ex thought I was a robot.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Wouldnt a powerful CEO or VP have a higher EQ being fully aware of her persona where she could fit in and where to discard?It depends.
A woman who is in the same age group as me would hv an higher EQ vs me.
A man's EQ is generally lower then a females.
Best reason to go youngerIt depends.
A woman who is in the same age group as me would hv an higher EQ vs me.
A man's EQ is generally lower then a females.
It depends.Wouldnt a powerful CEO or VP have a higher EQ being fully aware of her persona where she could fit in and where to discard?
Yes. That's the idea.Best reason to go younger
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Agree for the most part. What is a "nerd"? IMHO Steph Curry is a basketball nerd. A geek about minor details and information his peers overlook.It depends.
A powerful CEO could be a nerd and attained that position via his intellectual capabilities.
A nerd has even lower EQ then the average man.
I don't show many emotions especially negative oneWhy?
The EQ I'm talking abt is level of maturity.I don't show many emotions especially negative one
Got itThe EQ I'm talking abt is level of maturity.
So in that sense u r right in not showing 2 much emotions.
A man who displays high levels of emotions is basically the same as a boy in grown man's body. A man with low EQ.
What difference is that ? Do you mean those narratives that's being peddled by older women to remain viable ?Got it
But that's probably one of the reason idk about going way too young.
The difference can be very big
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I wont throw her out of my bed for sureWhat difference is that ? Do you mean those narratives that's being peddled by older women to remain viable ?
If she's of legal age then it's all good.
Have you ever been married?Marriage would be okay provided he has good leadership skills and has a higher EQ then his future wife.
Anything else will fail.
I know you asking Spaz.Have you ever been married?
I know you asking Spaz.
I have plenty of marriage and LTR experience.
My last wife fvcked me 2-3 times a day from 2001-2005 acting like she couldnt get enough. Cooked cleaned washed the clothes. Fought and took up for me. I swear to god we fot married in 2005 and that night she was like "good, now i dont have to do all that anymore". It didnt register. But the next 6 yrs was the "war of the roses" where she had an intense hatred for me and i faced disrespect and humiliation multiple times daily.
Was similar for me the disrespect and the rediculous expectation. I should have set the boundries at the very start then i would have seen who she realy was.I know you asking Spaz.
I have plenty of marriage and LTR experience.
My last wife fvcked me 2-3 times a day from 2001-2005 acting like she couldnt get enough. Cooked cleaned washed the clothes. Fought and took up for me. I swear to god we fot married in 2005 and that night she was like "good, now i dont have to do all that anymore". It didnt register. But the next 6 yrs was the "war of the roses" where she had an intense hatred for me and i faced disrespect and humiliation multiple times daily.
Oh yeah. Kids locked me in to take the punishment. I find out that during early 2000s feminism gained power and ALOT of men were having the same issues. Wimen were being coached and supported.Was similar for me the disrespect and the rediculous expectation. I should have set the boundries at the very start then i would have seen who she realy was.
Sex for her it seems it was just an obligation, agter awhile i was like **** it you are not interested im not interested im not trying anymore.
Because of the kids i did not cheat, bit had a few chances with younger and better looking women.
I did the man thing and dump her ass.
You got any kids man?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
On one thing i was lucky she never was able to get me away from my friends.Oh yeah. Kids locked me in to take the punishment. I find out that during early 2000s feminism gained power and ALOT of men were having the same issues. Wimen were being coached and supported.
Anyway She was a freak for sex. I was getting deep throat blow jobs all the way to the balls back then and it wasnt common even in porn. But what drove her to that level was her pulling me off another woman and away from friends. Competition. Once the competition was gone she turned. My red flag was she couldnt be wrong when we disagreed. Also she was a bully in disagreement and could resort to put downs and insults and physical violence. The sex and passion was so good i overlooked. Dumb man i was. No more.
Have been.Have you ever been married?
Disrespect only happens when she doesn't admire you.I know you asking Spaz.
I have plenty of marriage and LTR experience.
My last wife fvcked me 2-3 times a day from 2001-2005 acting like she couldnt get enough. Cooked cleaned washed the clothes. Fought and took up for me. I swear to god we got married in 2005 and that night she was like "good, now i dont have to do all that anymore". It didnt register. But the next 6 yrs was the "war of the roses" where she had an intense hatred for me and i faced disrespect and humiliation multiple times daily.
Her mother was a monster. A true man eater who exploited dozens of men hen pecking them using the local community and police force. Most of her aunts where heavy masculine bull dykes. They where in her ear. I believe she wanted two kids out of me and it never was about love. It was about competition with my ex wife in the world of women. Nothing i couldve done but bailed earlier. I was much younger and naive as well. No way at this age would i have NOT been trying to do much more with her than occasional sex.Disrespect only happens when she doesn't admire you.
These happens when ur EQ + leadership skills fail.
No amount of leadership skills could content a batchit crazy women which alots nowdays, choose a healthy emotionally female thats in deep interest with u.. Otherwise just have fun.What if his EQ and leadership is great but she had an 18 year consistent history of cheating in men and working against them, ultimately to their demise?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.