"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What will marriage give a man that he doesn’t already have?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Marriage to me seems to be more advantagous for the woman.
Makes it harder to leave her.
Id tell him to until at least 35 before thinking about it.
A man need real life experience before making that choice imo some ppl get it faster than other
Augustus_McCrae
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wifehunter
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1. Regulated governed 'status quo' public marriage
2. Arranged marriage
3. Historical private marriage
Ranger
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
AJ84
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But like Sazc said society tells women that they should get married and if he’s not proposing, he’s not the one. I don’t know how many times I have heard women say, “well if she’s good enough for him to live with, she should be good enough for him to marry.”
Sad really, because marriage doesn’t
guarantee a good relationship. Neither does moving in with, or raising a family with someone as some members here can attest to.
When you think about it there really is nothing that will guarantee a good relationship. There is nothing that will guarantee that you won’t get hurt.
Some people have great relationships, some don’t. Married, common law, dating, poly, whatever. It doesn’t matter what category the relationship falls in, it’s the people involved that make it a good relationship or a bad relationship.
All you can do is open your eyes, not let lust dictate your investment, and when that person shows you who they really are (and they will), choose whether or not to accept it, because people don’t change no matter game, frame, or otherwise.
The Duke
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There is nothing to be gained in marriage that is worth the risk for a man. I really wish that wasn't true but it is. At one point in time marriage was a sacred thing and produced some solid families that were able to accomplish a lot because they stuck together. That ship has long sailed.
I've talked to a few divorced women that made the money in the marriage and are now paying exhusbands. They think a lot like the typical male does in regards to marriage. They aren't so pro-marriage after they have lost some skin in the game.
Machine10033
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Last Summer he got her a boob job. Last Christmas she starts complaining that the marriage isn’t working. They go to therapy and around New Years he discovers she’s cheating. Massive blow up... she somehow makes him move into the guest room. They keep going to therapy. Around April he finds out through text messages that the other dude ghosted her and she’s been devestated....... so she finds another guy and breaks up his marrriage! My buddy says screw this and files for divorce.
He filed for divorce in June. Her and her family are still in his house. He is looking at shelling out 500k to get rid of her... child support and alimony. She now brings her new boyfriends to my buddies house and until the divorce is finalized he can’t do crap! Don’t get married !!!!
lamath
Master Don Juan
Sad....
But with that cheating she did anyway mfor him to get more?
Also I'd go for shared guardianship.
I got a buddy of mine that's in a similar situation he got a great job as a bank brach director but now he got 3 kids with his well educated lazy hot wife who don't like to work. So for the lats 6y now she is a stay at home mom like that's a job.
I can see the blow out coming in 2 year max. He as already got caught cheating
So he decided to go for a 3Rd kid wtf.
He is just to good for her he do everything, he barely have time to see his friend she won't let him. The shiit is gonna hit the fan when he will realize how high his smv ( it is very highest smv ik)
That the kind of life no man ever want to have, so much wasted potential.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
What if his EQ and leadership is great but she had an 18 year consistent history of cheating in men and working against them, ultimately to their demise?
lamath
Master Don Juan
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Emotional intelligence. Basically social "IQ".
The qualities I mentioned above creates followers.
A woman's history at that point becomes irrelevant.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Ahh... This particular female knows she wants to be an exploiter and controller of men. The better the man the bigger the thrill of the hunt. All wont follow. Many are loyal to their group or paridigm and cheat people outside them.
Then she has a fake leader who is actually weak, proving her point that all men r weak.
Yes such a women exist in ALL women.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Ahh no... Leader discards her when he determines she was working against him.
It depends.
A woman who is in the same age group as me would hv an higher EQ vs me.
A man's EQ is generally lower then a females.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.