"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What to do with my life?

SharinganUser

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I suffer from depression and lack direction in my life. What do I have to do to be happy and successful in life?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Maybe you could save the whales.
 

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The ones that swim, or the ones that try to ****block you in clubs? Niether is that appealing to me.
 

Da Realist

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It's your life. If you want to spend it in a corner beating up yourself over something you can't change, that's on you.
 

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Do you really want us to decide? You have 1 life...if you want someone else to live it for you that is sad as hell.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Realize that yesterday is dead, and the future doesn't exist yet.

Now what does this mean?...It means only live by the present, this exact moment right now. Become lost in it, and feel it. Forget what happened yesterday, whats done is done. Forget what may happen tommorrow, because you know what?...It almost never happens as you think of it.

Become aware of now and ask yourself. What you want in life. Build the skills you need to succeed in whatever you choose.

I wont pick and choose for you.
You do that yourself.
Good Luck.
 

02hero

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ExcelNPrevail said:
Realize that yesterday is dead, and the future doesn't exist yet.

Now what does this mean?...It means only live by the present, this exact moment right now. Become lost in it, and feel it. Forget what happened yesterday, whats done is done. Forget what may happen tommorrow, because you know what?...It almost never happens as you think of it.

Become aware of now and ask yourself. What you want in life. Build the skills you need to succeed in whatever you choose.

I wont pick and choose for you.
You do that yourself.
Good Luck.
Do this ^ it's a good way to get you started. Try reading the Power of NOW too.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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6-heads lewis

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Drink a lot of alcohol. Get an easy, low-paying job that gives you access to other people's personal belongings, steal them as a secondary source of income.

That about sums it up.
 

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02hero said:
Do this ^ it's a good way to get you started. Try reading the Power of NOW too.
Yes.
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is the inspiration behind that post of mines. The book is an incredible mind/eye-opener.

Good looking out on that one.

Sharinganuser, I'm not gonna tell you you should read it. You HAVE to read it.
Good Luck.
 

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SharinganUser said:
I suffer from depression and lack direction in my life. What do I have to do to be happy and successful in life?
I couldn't even begin to tell you what you need to do to be happy and successful, I don't know you. But what I can say is that recognizing you have a problem to be solved in the first place is half the battle.

Time for some soul-searchin' buddy. Talk to friends, see a counselor if need be, find hobbies, find religion, do something to help someone. Might lead you in the right direction.
 

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I think I worded my question wrong so most of you misunderstood what I am trying to ask. It was not my intention to have anyone pick what I wanted to do with my life, but I really just wanted to get some advice on how to get on the right track.

Last night I wanted to attend a new martial arts class, but I backed because I used my hand injury as an excuse. I used to love martial arts, but now I am so riddled with self doubt and depression that I couldn't even attend a class.
 

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So there is your first goal: go to the fvcking martial arts class. That is your mission. NOthing else matters until you achieve it. Go now.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I think your 1st goal should be to head over to health and fitness forum and get yourself physically healthy and eating right..that is the start and foundation of change that will allow other things to follow much more easily.
 

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Drum&Bass said:
I think your 1st goal should be to head over to health and fitness forum and get yourself physically healthy and eating right..that is the start and foundation of change that will allow other things to follow much more easily.
That's probably true. I don't know if the physical thing is the most important change to make, but it's probably the easiest to make and offers the most easily measurable results.
 

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You seem to like watching movies, so I suggest you watch these 3 for starters. "What About Bob" the one about Bill Murray as the deranged psychiatric patient who stalks Richard Dreyfus. "Groundhog Day", another Bill Murray movie, even if you've seen it watch it again, just for some different thinking. Then watch "Men of Honour" which is about a black guy trying to make something of himself.

Finally, remember, you don't have a purpose. Your genes have a purpose, and that is to reproduce themselves. So get on with it.
 

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Thanks guys. I am just trying to take it one day at a time and figure **** out right now. The next MA class is on friday.
 

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Stop thinking and act, go with the flow. Become passionate about something, even about life. Travel around the world as soon as you can, learn to contemplate the beauty of Nature. Happiness is the way !
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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