SharinganUser
Master Don Juan
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I suffer from depression and lack direction in my life. What do I have to do to be happy and successful in life?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Do this ^ it's a good way to get you started. Try reading the Power of NOW too.ExcelNPrevail said:Realize that yesterday is dead, and the future doesn't exist yet.
Now what does this mean?...It means only live by the present, this exact moment right now. Become lost in it, and feel it. Forget what happened yesterday, whats done is done. Forget what may happen tommorrow, because you know what?...It almost never happens as you think of it.
Become aware of now and ask yourself. What you want in life. Build the skills you need to succeed in whatever you choose.
I wont pick and choose for you.
You do that yourself.
Good Luck.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yes.02hero said:Do this ^ it's a good way to get you started. Try reading the Power of NOW too.
I couldn't even begin to tell you what you need to do to be happy and successful, I don't know you. But what I can say is that recognizing you have a problem to be solved in the first place is half the battle.SharinganUser said:I suffer from depression and lack direction in my life. What do I have to do to be happy and successful in life?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's probably true. I don't know if the physical thing is the most important change to make, but it's probably the easiest to make and offers the most easily measurable results.Drum&Bass said:I think your 1st goal should be to head over to health and fitness forum and get yourself physically healthy and eating right..that is the start and foundation of change that will allow other things to follow much more easily.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.