SharinganUser
Master Don Juan
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I suffer from depression and lack direction in my life. What do I have to do to be happy and successful in life?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do this ^ it's a good way to get you started. Try reading the Power of NOW too.ExcelNPrevail said:Realize that yesterday is dead, and the future doesn't exist yet.
Now what does this mean?...It means only live by the present, this exact moment right now. Become lost in it, and feel it. Forget what happened yesterday, whats done is done. Forget what may happen tommorrow, because you know what?...It almost never happens as you think of it.
Become aware of now and ask yourself. What you want in life. Build the skills you need to succeed in whatever you choose.
I wont pick and choose for you.
You do that yourself.
Good Luck.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yes.02hero said:Do this ^ it's a good way to get you started. Try reading the Power of NOW too.
I couldn't even begin to tell you what you need to do to be happy and successful, I don't know you. But what I can say is that recognizing you have a problem to be solved in the first place is half the battle.SharinganUser said:I suffer from depression and lack direction in my life. What do I have to do to be happy and successful in life?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's probably true. I don't know if the physical thing is the most important change to make, but it's probably the easiest to make and offers the most easily measurable results.Drum&Bass said:I think your 1st goal should be to head over to health and fitness forum and get yourself physically healthy and eating right..that is the start and foundation of change that will allow other things to follow much more easily.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.