SharinganUser
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I suffer from depression and lack direction in my life. What do I have to do to be happy and successful in life?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What to do with my life?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
SharinganUser
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The ones that swim, or the ones that try to ****block you in clubs? Niether is that appealing to me.
Da Realist
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It's your life. If you want to spend it in a corner beating up yourself over something you can't change, that's on you.
Desert Fox
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Do you really want us to decide? You have 1 life...if you want someone else to live it for you that is sad as hell.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
guayaballer
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end it.
guayaballer
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but seriously embark on a journey or something.
ExcelNPrevail
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Realize that yesterday is dead, and the future doesn't exist yet.
Now what does this mean?...It means only live by the present, this exact moment right now. Become lost in it, and feel it. Forget what happened yesterday, whats done is done. Forget what may happen tommorrow, because you know what?...It almost never happens as you think of it.
Become aware of now and ask yourself. What you want in life. Build the skills you need to succeed in whatever you choose.
I wont pick and choose for you.
You do that yourself.
Good Luck.
Now what does this mean?...It means only live by the present, this exact moment right now. Become lost in it, and feel it. Forget what happened yesterday, whats done is done. Forget what may happen tommorrow, because you know what?...It almost never happens as you think of it.
Become aware of now and ask yourself. What you want in life. Build the skills you need to succeed in whatever you choose.
I wont pick and choose for you.
You do that yourself.
Good Luck.
:crazy:"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
6-heads lewis
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Drink a lot of alcohol. Get an easy, low-paying job that gives you access to other people's personal belongings, steal them as a secondary source of income.
That about sums it up.
That about sums it up.
ExcelNPrevail
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Yes.02hero said:
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is the inspiration behind that post of mines. The book is an incredible mind/eye-opener.
Good looking out on that one.
Sharinganuser, I'm not gonna tell you you should read it. You HAVE to read it.
Good Luck.
I couldn't even begin to tell you what you need to do to be happy and successful, I don't know you. But what I can say is that recognizing you have a problem to be solved in the first place is half the battle.SharinganUser said:
Time for some soul-searchin' buddy. Talk to friends, see a counselor if need be, find hobbies, find religion, do something to help someone. Might lead you in the right direction.
SharinganUser
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I think I worded my question wrong so most of you misunderstood what I am trying to ask. It was not my intention to have anyone pick what I wanted to do with my life, but I really just wanted to get some advice on how to get on the right track.
Last night I wanted to attend a new martial arts class, but I backed because I used my hand injury as an excuse. I used to love martial arts, but now I am so riddled with self doubt and depression that I couldn't even attend a class.
Last night I wanted to attend a new martial arts class, but I backed because I used my hand injury as an excuse. I used to love martial arts, but now I am so riddled with self doubt and depression that I couldn't even attend a class.
thedeparted
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So there is your first goal: go to the fvcking martial arts class. That is your mission. NOthing else matters until you achieve it. Go now.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Drum&Bass
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I think your 1st goal should be to head over to health and fitness forum and get yourself physically healthy and eating right..that is the start and foundation of change that will allow other things to follow much more easily.
You seem to like watching movies, so I suggest you watch these 3 for starters. "What About Bob" the one about Bill Murray as the deranged psychiatric patient who stalks Richard Dreyfus. "Groundhog Day", another Bill Murray movie, even if you've seen it watch it again, just for some different thinking. Then watch "Men of Honour" which is about a black guy trying to make something of himself.
Finally, remember, you don't have a purpose. Your genes have a purpose, and that is to reproduce themselves. So get on with it.
Finally, remember, you don't have a purpose. Your genes have a purpose, and that is to reproduce themselves. So get on with it.
SharinganUser
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Thanks guys. I am just trying to take it one day at a time and figure **** out right now. The next MA class is on friday.
The Dreamer
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Stop thinking and act, go with the flow. Become passionate about something, even about life. Travel around the world as soon as you can, learn to contemplate the beauty of Nature. Happiness is the way !
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.