What specifically could I be doing wrong?

[Josh Davidson]

I often get women's phone numbers when I ask for them but rarely get first dates, and never second dates with the same woman or sex.

 

[Josh Davidson]

I wait two or three days before I text them and try to arrange a meet up. I don't know of anything I do that would turn them off. I sometimes get the "I'll let you know" text from women.

 

[Josh Davidson]

I ask for her number and she is like: "sure" and gives it to me

 

[Josh Davidson]

I wouldn't necessarily say that she seems excited to give me her number

 

[Josh Davidson]

Me: Hi (her name). This is Josh. We met at (name of bar) on (day of the week). I'm gonna be at (name of bar) on (day of the week) at (time) do you wanna join me? Her: I can't I have to work then. Me: Do you wanna meet up some other time? Her: I'll let you know. [Of course she doesn't]

 

[Josh Davidson]

How do I built rapport with her specifically. (I also happen to have asperger's syndrome (mild autism) so I don't have very good social skills but want to learn)

 

[Josh Davidson]

Ok. Thank you!

 

[lost_blackbird]

How do I built rapport with her specifically. (I also happen to have asperger's syndrome (mild autism) so I don't have very good social skills but want to learn)

You're not alone here my friend. I have stumbled my way through interpersonal
and romantic relationships my whole life, failed friendships all over the place, failed marriage and
an imminent divorce. I'm 48 in a few weeks and I'm no wiser with this stuff than than when I was 14.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I wouldn't necessarily say that she seems excited to give me her number

That's because giving out a number is no big deal for most women. It really isn't even a sign of interest. They know it is far easier for them to give out their number and reject a guy via text than in person where things could escalate or the guy could handle it badly and then they may be in physical danger.

You are misinterpreting getting her number as a sign of interest when it isn't.

 

[bat soup]

Me: Hi (her name). This is Josh. We met at (name of bar) on (day of the week). I'm gonna be at (name of bar) on (day of the week) at (time) do you wanna join me? Her: I can't I have to work then. Me: Do you wanna meet up some other time? Her: I'll let you know. [Of course she doesn't]

"I'll let you know" = I'm not really interested.

Women are not going to tell you no directly. They prefer to fob guys off with excuses. Excuse = not interested.