Heizen
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This needs to be stickied or something because this is the best explaination of kino I have ever seen.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What KINO is REALLY all about (Advanced)
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
hmm
well.. i am curious to know of a way to use some good kino techniques during a hug? like stroke her back, or thighs? or where to rub etc.. i don't even know how i would go about doing this... run my fingers down her waist or? lol.... i am very new to this sort of stuff...
anyways thanks... good thread....9.5/10
well.. i am curious to know of a way to use some good kino techniques during a hug? like stroke her back, or thighs? or where to rub etc.. i don't even know how i would go about doing this... run my fingers down her waist or? lol.... i am very new to this sort of stuff...
anyways thanks... good thread....9.5/10
comic_relief
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I don't think kino on the intiail first approach is about sex at all.
I think when you cold approach a chick and you are casually touching her arm, back, etc you are doing it to connect with her, convey confidence, and show her you're special and social. Whenever you see those flirtatious, social animals... they always touch at the right point. As you share a laugh, give her a light touch.
The purpose of this is to connect, and as mentioned above, break barriers. Not to get her into sex.
Now...... kino on a date or whatever is for getting her hot mostly.
antidonjuan
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great analysis
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bose Rocks
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well... what can I do if I read this thread a tad late, and was pretty safe and "afc" and therefore am now in the "just friends" category... any advice would be great plz read my thread for more info on my situation... http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1417706#post1417706
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Tictac
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Good post!
The quote is I think where most guys fall down. Balancing the desire to initiate with not rushing it is something of an art.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
OsirisII
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