salinechow
Senior Don Juan
Given my recent posts I thought this would be a good exercise for all.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
What is Oneitis. Define.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Where even thinking of her literally makes your heart weak and goosebumps down your spine. Only one girl I ever encountered in my life did this to me. Where at one point you would be willing to give up everything to be with her.....hooking up with other women is like nothing compared to being with her...just a side distraction that doesn't really help.
Consider it your kryptonite. But you shoukd enjoy conquering the desire to be with them in order to get stronger...unless they are good for you ofcourse.
Builds true character and inner game.
My other game sucks...can't outtalk your average pua guy or frst guy for that matter....but my inner game is strong because of personal trials tribulations, rejections, enduring pain....conquering severe life/mental threatening insomnia and panic attacks... Martial arts....divorce and last but not least conquering my oneitis.
Consider it your kryptonite. But you shoukd enjoy conquering the desire to be with them in order to get stronger...unless they are good for you ofcourse.
Builds true character and inner game.
My other game sucks...can't outtalk your average pua guy or frst guy for that matter....but my inner game is strong because of personal trials tribulations, rejections, enduring pain....conquering severe life/mental threatening insomnia and panic attacks... Martial arts....divorce and last but not least conquering my oneitis.
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logicallefty
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Oneitus is where one woman has enough control over you in whatever way that you act in ways that negatively alter your thought processes, actions, decisions, motivations, judgement, etc. regarding other women you may be able to be with.
It's usually the opposite.... You quickly get sick.of your gf...
Oneitis is that unicorn so to speak you never completely got.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Rainbows, unicorns, and puppy dogs, thats what oneitis is made of. I kid! I kid!
I think oneitis is obsessing, idealizing and fantasizing in a highly unrealistic way. I'm guilty on all counts! I need to kill it, dead! It's stupid! LOL!!!
I think oneitis is obsessing, idealizing and fantasizing in a highly unrealistic way. I'm guilty on all counts! I need to kill it, dead! It's stupid! LOL!!!
marmel75
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The chick you keep obsessing about that you've posted about in 5 seperate threads and refuse to act like a man and walk away from a woman who is playing games with you and has ZERO sexual interest in you.
That's the perfect definition.
That's the perfect definition.
Oneitis is the mental projection of an idealized conception onto one girl who hasn't demonstrated thoroughly that she could possibly live up to that ideal, often to the exclusion of pursuing other, more tangible options--and to the exclusion of any evidence--behaviors, facts, etc.--that could possibly paint her in a less favorable light.
It usually leads to inaction--such an illusion require distance to sustain itself--and severe male hamsterization. I.e., Oh, she's not emotionally unavailable, she's just shy. Since she's shy, she probably hasn't been with many guys. She isn't responding to my texts because she just needs me to prove myself. She's not insecure and controlling--she's just been hurt in the past, etc.
It usually leads to inaction--such an illusion require distance to sustain itself--and severe male hamsterization. I.e., Oh, she's not emotionally unavailable, she's just shy. Since she's shy, she probably hasn't been with many guys. She isn't responding to my texts because she just needs me to prove myself. She's not insecure and controlling--she's just been hurt in the past, etc.
Serenity
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Oneitis is used to describe a man who focuses and pursues only one woman without her having the same interest for him, it's thus considered negative. However if she's got the same interest it's usually not defined as oneitis.
Oneitis is the same as infatuation, she's on your mind, you imagine being with her and have elevated feelings for her. Oneitis in particular is when a man fantasizes instead of acting on his feelings, he remains trapped and usually crashes horribly when the high subsides. It's exactly like a drug, feels good but is eventually very bad for you.
Oneitis is the same as infatuation, she's on your mind, you imagine being with her and have elevated feelings for her. Oneitis in particular is when a man fantasizes instead of acting on his feelings, he remains trapped and usually crashes horribly when the high subsides. It's exactly like a drug, feels good but is eventually very bad for you.
I've suffered from that before, and let me tell you that like you said, it isn't fun at all after that high wears off. There was a girl that I loved back in high school, and it continued on for so long, those feelings kept going even after that woman got married several years ago as I wasn't phased by it. Then it died down for awhile but those feelings immediately reignited when I saw her in a department store last year and we talked for awhile. It took me quite a few months but they're back under control again, plus my mother helped pound some sense into my head when she informed me that even if that girl did get divorced (which was what I was hoping for at one time as I can tell she isn't all that happy currently by what she does), I didn't need all that extra baggage that would come with her. I still think of her occasionally, but nowhere near how I used to.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I would break it down in 2 ways:
(1) when the girl is good looking and is the only one who finds you attractive. You have to stick with this girl because you don't know how to get any other girl to find you attractive. You do anything to make it work with her.
(2) when the girl is good looking and you think (not her) that your personalities and interests match up very well. She understands you and is your soul mate. You do anything to make it work with her.
Oneitis only occurs when the girl is good looking and in shape. Who has oneitis to a girl 15 lbs overweight with glasses and bad clothes?
(1) when the girl is good looking and is the only one who finds you attractive. You have to stick with this girl because you don't know how to get any other girl to find you attractive. You do anything to make it work with her.
(2) when the girl is good looking and you think (not her) that your personalities and interests match up very well. She understands you and is your soul mate. You do anything to make it work with her.
Oneitis only occurs when the girl is good looking and in shape. Who has oneitis to a girl 15 lbs overweight with glasses and bad clothes?
raider87
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It's usually an infatuation of a girl you barely know. A girl that may have shown interest but you got stuck in your head, overanalysed everything and failed to act. Your gut instinct tells you to make a move but your mind is filled with self doubt from bs social conditioning so you sort of just freeze and stall until she loses all interest.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Oneitis = Spending too much time thinking about one woman.