"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What do you spend money on for fun and entertainment?

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I bought my favorite 50 movies on Blu Ray. I collected some vintage metal theatre signs and framed movie posters and turned my apartment into a drive-in theatre and diner (I cook so I actually have all the food and popcorn, etc available if people want to order). The whole things costs less than $2000.

I also collect Lincoln Cents, and I'm a prepper so I try to have the 100 items most likely to sell out in an emergency.
 

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My idea of fun are actual activities. Say snowboarding or skiing at some lodge, hiking with a tour guide and group of others, rock climbing, those things are always fun. Or say hiring a physical trainer to coach you. I write my own workouts really, but having someone there pushing you is always great because it keeps you working hard. Especially because you paid for it so you want to get your money's worth. Building stuff is always fun too. Using things like Leggos or Magnetix seems to pass by time, although I haven't touched either one of those since I was 12 lol.

The whole point of money is so that you are able to buy the things needed to fulfill your hobbies. You just gotta find some hobbies.
 

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The whole point of money is so that you are able to buy the things needed to fulfill your hobbies. You just gotta find some hobbies.
Yeah agree. My "problem" is that all of my hobbies are pretty cheap - gym, music, reading, salsa, etc.

I make a fair bit of money but don't really know what to spend it on, other than investing to make even more money....but the benefit of doing that is something you won't see for a while. I need to feel some benefit to the money I'm making TODAY....otherwise what's the point.

I'm thinking about spending money on travelling regularly - perhaps a different country once a month.
 

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MOr say hiring a physical trainer to coach you. I write my own workouts really, but having someone there pushing you is always great because it keeps you working hard.
Yes, I hired a physical trainer in December. I'm 7 months in now and I'm really seeing results. There is no other way a 47 year old man like me could have replaced a 21 year old HB9 within days without my having been hitting the gym for a long time.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I have hobbies that pay me vs me pay for them. My two part-time jobs are my hobbies. I get a lot of enjoyment from them. Lately Ive also been day trading stocks which is a blast for me. I spend some of my extra cash taking short trips (in the USA). Just got back from Nashville yesterday. I like camping, fishing, etc.
 

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Some I use on things and some I use on activities. I recently bought a Lego set that I'm currently building. It's not something I do often, but that set was just too cool to not buy. I don't buy much things really, I spend more on experiences. I go on festivals, concerts, travel to other countries and even go on a spa once in a while.

I really just buy whatever I'd like if it doesn't hurt my economy, I can afford most things I want.
 

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Some I use on things and some I use on activities. I recently bought a Lego set that I'm currently building. It's not something I do often, but that set was just too cool to not buy. I don't buy much things really, I spend more on experiences. I go on festivals, concerts, travel to other countries and even go on a spa once in a while.

I really just buy whatever I'd like if it doesn't hurt my economy, I can afford most things I want.
I second that on the Legos. I don't buy new ones anymore, or rarely. But on a stressful day I might come home and build with the ones I have had starting since I was 2 x years old. It takes my mind off of stuff.
 

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Golf, gym, boating, fishing and recreational property
 

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Hobbies.... Surfing, Scuba, archery, biking and yoga.

I practice a lot with my pistol... I enjoy that, I've sold all my guns and just kept the one (Glock 19 Gen 4) about 3 months ago, I decided to just get really good with one weapon, so lately I have been working on proficiency.

But I really do not have a lot of free time... I work hard and play hard, typically I put in 10-12 hour days. I'll date 2-3 times a week and have my kids on weekends.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Eating out at restaurants. By myself at the bar. I've also spent money on cosmetic procedures like laser hair removal and a silicone injection to make my **** thicker.
 

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Good hobbies, Ranger. I surf, scuba, and practice archery as well. It sucks when I break or lose an expensive arrow in the wild.

All things guitar related:
-Upgrade accessories
-Tabulature and technique books
-Weekly lessons

Recent purchases:
-Music stand
-A nice metronome

Future wish list:
-Pedals and an effects processor.

Misc.
-Concert tickets
-Music (mp3s)
-Going to an occasional movie
-Food & supplements -- fuel for the gym
-Go for an occasional massage
 

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@resilient I don't even want to try and figure out how much in money I've lost in arrows. The arrows I use are $15 a pop, I'll typically lose 6 on one trip.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hunting and fishing is expensive.... $4000+ a year easy....

But it is my passion... and you really only live once...
 

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I collect art. I buy things I love and find beautiful as I appreciate a well adorned space.

Good shoes (I'm a chick so go figure).

Good restaurants and wine & libations & the occasional good cigar.

Major League Baseball (I'm a seat snob so I like to sit up close if I'm at a live game, whether it's just me or me & friends or me & family).

A vintage Airstream

Travel & experiences

Golf & Tennis

Massages

Like Grewd I can pretty much buy what I want within reason and I enjoy simple pleasures & experiences more than "stuff".

Good clothes

I'm also a horse trader. So I'll buy stuff to turn for a buck. That's a pretty fun kick.
 

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I generally get on stage as an opening act.
Gets my blood pumping and some cash.
 
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Sports mainly (basketball). Drinking with friends (I'm so British). Live music.

Considering: life drawing sessions; language classes, particularly French and Italian; drum tuition and maybe some mixing equipment.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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