BeTheChange
Master Don Juan
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Serious question.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah agree. My "problem" is that all of my hobbies are pretty cheap - gym, music, reading, salsa, etc.The whole point of money is so that you are able to buy the things needed to fulfill your hobbies. You just gotta find some hobbies.
Yes, I hired a physical trainer in December. I'm 7 months in now and I'm really seeing results. There is no other way a 47 year old man like me could have replaced a 21 year old HB9 within days without my having been hitting the gym for a long time.MOr say hiring a physical trainer to coach you. I write my own workouts really, but having someone there pushing you is always great because it keeps you working hard.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I second that on the Legos. I don't buy new ones anymore, or rarely. But on a stressful day I might come home and build with the ones I have had starting since I was 2 x years old. It takes my mind off of stuff.Some I use on things and some I use on activities. I recently bought a Lego set that I'm currently building. It's not something I do often, but that set was just too cool to not buy. I don't buy much things really, I spend more on experiences. I go on festivals, concerts, travel to other countries and even go on a spa once in a while.
I really just buy whatever I'd like if it doesn't hurt my economy, I can afford most things I want.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.