"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What do you do if your GF plays the C&F on you?!

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Fela Kuti

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Usually I just counter-C&F her. But as our relationship goes further, I got tired of her act. I'm thinking of telling her, please stop the C&F. Any advice?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't TELL her. That's just whining about your own insecurity, because that's why you can't handle it properly in the first place. If she's trying to act like you should put her on a pedestal, show her she's only getting in her own way by doing that. You (should) have other options. In other words: spin plates.
 
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i would just negative reinforce it, like...

"mmm baby you're fiesty ****y attitude is totally turning me on... Lets try anal sex again!!!!... C'mon I will race you to the bedroom" tag her and run away "you're it!!"

:)

lol, honestly though you could just be cool about it and tone her down... Whenever she is being a ****y little *****, just be like "aww babe you can act nice and be YOURSELF whenever you're alone with me... Don't worry I won't tell your friends, You can still act like a badass around them"... she will get the hint.
 
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Thats why I don't date girls who do that in the first place. It starts to get on my nerves after a while. I would tell her to knock it off or I would just dump her.
 
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I kinda like girls that act fiesty, or think they are tuff. its some much more fun to tame em wit my stroke. =) I say loosen up a little.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Fela Kuti said:
Usually I just counter-C&F her. But as our relationship goes further, I got tired of her act. I'm thinking of telling her, please stop the C&F. Any advice?
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What exactly is she doing/saying?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
What exactly is she doing/saying?
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i'm paraphrasing here:

"you're lucky to have me"
"i don't love you that much anyway"
"my inbox is filled with your messages. i think i'm getting sick of it."

all were said in a joking tone though. but still..
 
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Fela Kuti said:
i'm paraphrasing here:
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"you're lucky to have me"
Francisco: "Perhaps, but you've always been luckier than me." ;)

"i don't love you that much anyway"
Francisco: "I know... You worship me, there's a difference y'know.."

"my inbox is filled with your messages. i think i'm getting sick of it."
Francisco: "Those aren't technically my messages, I submitted your email addy to the 'Amputee Midget Love' forum.

Don't take what she says personally, it's just playful flirting; play along. :up:
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
play along. :up:
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I tink da wittow baby got his feewings hurted. He don't wanna pway no more, its time for war!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Fela Kuti said:
i'm paraphrasing here:

"you're lucky to have me"
"i don't love you that much anyway"
"my inbox is filled with your messages. i think i'm getting sick of it."

all were said in a joking tone though. but still..
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kick her in the man nuts....:trouble:

maybe you just can't handle this girl???

Try fvcking her younger sister... that always works for me. :woo: :cheer: :rockon:
 
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My new gf does that and I think it's cute. I like ****y women, its fun to argue with them.
 
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navyseal2101 said:
My new gf does that and I think it's cute. I like ****y women, its fun to argue with them.
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yeah, at first it was fun. but now, i don't know. well maybe i'm getting insecure now. haha.
 
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anyway, isn't the c&f better be toned down (if not eliminated) when you're in a LTR?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fela Kuti said:
anyway, isn't the c&f better be toned down (if not eliminated) when you're in a LTR?
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Just depends on what you like in a girl. In your case, it seems you don't like it, so try the things that have been provided in this thread and see if you get results you like.
 
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Just depends on what you like in a girl. In your case, it seems you don't like it, so try the things that have been provided in this thread and see if you get results you like.
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The thing is if c/f is a part of her nature (she was that way before they started dating) it may be a bit difficult if he wants her to change. Now, if he agrees to work on his insecurities if she agrees to tone down the c/f.... :cool:
 
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