You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What exactly is she doing/saying?Fela Kuti said:Usually I just counter-C&F her. But as our relationship goes further, I got tired of her act. I'm thinking of telling her, please stop the C&F. Any advice?
i'm paraphrasing here:Francisco d'Anconia said:What exactly is she doing/saying?
"you're lucky to have me"Fela Kuti said:i'm paraphrasing here:
I tink da wittow baby got his feewings hurted. He don't wanna pway no more, its time for war!Francisco d'Anconia said:play along.![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
kick her in the man nuts....:trouble:Fela Kuti said:i'm paraphrasing here:
"you're lucky to have me"
"i don't love you that much anyway"
"my inbox is filled with your messages. i think i'm getting sick of it."
all were said in a joking tone though. but still..
....are you reading the same thread we all are?MooseGod said:My main one used to be when she'd tell me she loved me...
and I would reply "Thanks, I love me too."![]()
yeah, at first it was fun. but now, i don't know. well maybe i'm getting insecure now. haha.navyseal2101 said:My new gf does that and I think it's cute. I like ****y women, its fun to argue with them.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Just depends on what you like in a girl. In your case, it seems you don't like it, so try the things that have been provided in this thread and see if you get results you like.Fela Kuti said:anyway, isn't the c&f better be toned down (if not eliminated) when you're in a LTR?
The thing is if c/f is a part of her nature (she was that way before they started dating) it may be a bit difficult if he wants her to change. Now, if he agrees to work on his insecurities if she agrees to tone down the c/f....Ace of Flames said:Just depends on what you like in a girl. In your case, it seems you don't like it, so try the things that have been provided in this thread and see if you get results you like.