She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
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These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
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What exactly is she doing/saying?Fela Kuti said:Usually I just counter-C&F her. But as our relationship goes further, I got tired of her act. I'm thinking of telling her, please stop the C&F. Any advice?
i'm paraphrasing here:Francisco d'Anconia said:What exactly is she doing/saying?
"you're lucky to have me"Fela Kuti said:i'm paraphrasing here:
I tink da wittow baby got his feewings hurted. He don't wanna pway no more, its time for war!Francisco d'Anconia said:play along.![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
kick her in the man nuts....:trouble:Fela Kuti said:i'm paraphrasing here:
"you're lucky to have me"
"i don't love you that much anyway"
"my inbox is filled with your messages. i think i'm getting sick of it."
all were said in a joking tone though. but still..
....are you reading the same thread we all are?MooseGod said:My main one used to be when she'd tell me she loved me...
and I would reply "Thanks, I love me too."![]()
yeah, at first it was fun. but now, i don't know. well maybe i'm getting insecure now. haha.navyseal2101 said:My new gf does that and I think it's cute. I like ****y women, its fun to argue with them.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Just depends on what you like in a girl. In your case, it seems you don't like it, so try the things that have been provided in this thread and see if you get results you like.Fela Kuti said:anyway, isn't the c&f better be toned down (if not eliminated) when you're in a LTR?
The thing is if c/f is a part of her nature (she was that way before they started dating) it may be a bit difficult if he wants her to change. Now, if he agrees to work on his insecurities if she agrees to tone down the c/f....Ace of Flames said:Just depends on what you like in a girl. In your case, it seems you don't like it, so try the things that have been provided in this thread and see if you get results you like.